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Opportunity with scary possibility

We were given the option to be shown to a birthmother that has many issues.
Bi polar
Used meth in the past (do not know how much)
She is currently in an institution
Assaulted by birth father at 6 months
Baby boy is due in 2 weeks so need to decide by tomorrow

Any advice? One of these would be fine but all together we are worried about what could happen to the baby and if we are able to care for a child that could have severe medical problems.

We have had 2 failed adoptions in the past year so slew want to think this through before just jumping in because we are grateful for another chance at a baby.

Thank you


Hi, our precious foster son was born to a mother who used methamphetamines and alcohol and is in prison.
Our little has been doing well since birth and developing on track.

Posted by nolrutha on Jan 06, 2019 at 4:55pm

That is a lot and would scare me too. You know what you are capable of better than anyone. If you have any apprenhensions I would first suggest doing as much research as you can but then really asking yourself if you would be able to provide the kind of care this child might need. With adoption you have to ask yourself the scary or uncomfortable questions because there is a little life involved and it wouldn’t be fair to them.

Posted by KChiarilli on Jan 06, 2019 at 5:36pm

We adopted our daughter and her birthmom and her mom had a history of mental health issues and she had used drugs and apparently used them just a couple of days prior to her birth. She is 5 and had some small anxiety issues, but nothing else so far. I’ve struggled with anxiety so i knew i could relate with some things that were presented, if they came up, and we took a step of faith. We prayed about it. We had other situations where it was clear we weren’t comfortable and we didn’t feel capable. I hope it becomes clear to you folks soon.

Posted by Bella228 on Jan 06, 2019 at 6:56pm

You could take a look at I believe they may wven have a hotline you can call. Someone gave this to me several years ago when we were going through our first adoption journey. Pediatric Interium Care Center. It has a lot of information.

Posted by cosmojones on Jan 06, 2019 at 7:32pm

That’s a very tough situation. Best of luck on whatever you decide.

Posted by Mrs.Mac4 on Jan 08, 2019 at 1:40am

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