Heartbroken after another failed adoption
We were supposed to adopt a baby about a month ago. We had everything ready for the baby & two days before she changed her mind, which I know she’s…
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Expectant Parent(EP) and mother of 8 dies on Thanksgiving Day 2012
I am sorry to have to post that an Expectant Parent (EP) that I was working with this past summer died on Thanksgiving Day 2012 from a seizure and internal…
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So heartbroken!
We just lost our 4 adoptive children to a foster mother who told the state 4 times that she did not want to adopt the children. We wanted these children…
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The sun will shine after the storm...
Don’t give up! I was reading some miscellaneous posts across the internet. Here are some comments I read with regard to adoption losses: One EP wrote, “The family that got…
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Sad reminder
Today I happened to drive past a pumpkin patch being set up for Halloween. Last year when I drove past it I put it in the memory bank that I…
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Grieving our loss....
My husband and I were picked by a birthmom about 7 weeks before her delivery. We built a relationship with her over that time by texting/talking every day. Our baby…
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Overwhelmed
We were matched with a mom on May 30 who was due to gave birth July 13. We were so hopeful. She seemed like she was in a great place…
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So sad right now, another loss
Just hurting, need to voice things, sorry. We were matched, she was born, spent day with her in the hospital, all was going great, went to pick her up the…
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Not again...
My wife, two-year-old, and I have just gone through two placements that fell through. We heard about both at the same time, though the due dates were about two months apart. The first fell apart at the last moment. That baby boy had been born, was named in the hospital with the name we had all agreed on, and the birth parents decided to take him home “for a couple days” before making a placement. The birthparents changed their minds and decided to parent him without giving a reason. For the second, the birthmother had waited to see if we became available again and was excited about our willingness to jump right back in. We met her and got along well. We met the birthfather and his parents and thought the meeting went well. Long story short, the agency warned us he and his parents set several criteria (first revealed after the meeting) that individually and collectively excluded us from consideration. They then hired a lawyer to prepare to fight any decision with which they disagreed. With two almost placements within about two months, we are just feeling crushed. We are also preparing to move forward by updating our profile with the agency (it was getting stale anyway) and developing a list of questions to get answered before meeting another birth family/parents. I’m a pragmatist, so I’m turning to this group for ideas of questions that could prevent this from happening a third time. Thoughts? Thanks. </3
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Series of Adoption Losses at the Same Time
Be alert fellow AP’s! I had a fall through at the same time my stepfather of 48+ years, and also an adoptive parent to my half brother passed away. And…
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Adoption credit for a failed adoption
Has anyone claimed the adoption credit for a failed adoption? I had one failed adoption. I spoke with an IRS agent about it. She told me I could not claim…
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3 failed adoptions - looking for hope
My husband have been married for 10 years now and have always wanted a family. We just went through our 3rd failed adoptions in 9 months. The first; the baby was in foster care for 3 weeks. My husband and I visited with her everyday and attended her 4 day doctor visit and her 2 week doctor visit. Two days before the court date, the birth mother picked her up because the birth father refused to sign. My husband and I already fell in love with her. We were heart broken. We were fortunate not to lose any money. The second; we met with the birth mother several times, went to ultrasounds etc.. The birth mother called the night before she was induced and said she didn’t want us at the hospital and she was taking the baby home with her. We came to find out she scammed us. We were disappointed and hurt. We also lost $16,000. The third; we just had to drop her off at the agency 3 days ago. We took her home from the hospital and we had her for almost 3 weeks. The birth mother decided to parent because the birth father refused to sign off. This one has absolutely broken us. We honestly thought that everything that happened in the past was to lead us to her. All 3 cases were trough different agencies and we waited 2-3 months for the baby to born. I don’t know if i can handle it anymore. Has anyone had similar situations with a happy ending. I need hope. I feel so defeated at this point.
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I hate to vent but I need some advice
We had a failed adoption last July. That was our first time meeting a bm. We were on the list for 23 months when this all happened. Now, we have…
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A Loss in Adoption
Read my February 17, 2012 post “My First Match” in group “Looking for an Adoption Match.” Hope it helps someone…
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Temporary Match... failed
Last November we were temporarily matched with a birthmom who acted like she really wanted us to parent her baby boy. She acted like she just wanted to meet us…
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Contact with Birthmother after distrupted adoption. . .
Our birthmom changed her mind 4 days after we had the baby in the beginning of Nov. It was the worst loss we ever had (and we suffered many miscarriages…
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Failed adoption right before New Years
After 3 miscarriages my husband and I thought about adoption but we really had not started anything. A few months ago we received a phone call that one of my…
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Losing Confidence in Match
We had a failed match about two years ago. Then, we got matched August of this year. It is a long match as the emom is due in February. We…
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Failure, via Facebook
We were matched for our second domestic adoption in early September of 2011. The situation was a little strange from the get-go: The birth mom had three other children, one…
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Failed Adoption at the Holidays
My husband and I just experienced our first failed adoption 5 days before Christmas. After years of infertility along with years of unsuccessful treatment and 3 miscarriages, we were matched…
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