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How did you decide to adopt a large sibling group? As we are going through profiles I am only looking at single or sibling group of two. I am always drawn to the larger groups, but that seems like it would be over whelming. God Bless you and your family.

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Shelly,how many children do you have now? What are their ages? We adopted a sibling group of three. They were 2,3, and 5 years old.One caution I would say is that you might have some internal trouble if you adopt children that will change the birth order. For some families it works out well. For others you might have added issues to deal with.

Our kids love each other but the two that are 10 are only three weeks apart and the younger was adopted first so it pushed him down in the birth order. I deal with some issues between them.The issues might be more challenging if the children you are hoping to adopt are older and have had more time to be set in there ways.

One more thing I deal with is that the firstborn in the sibling group was used to being the “mother” to the other ones. Then she entered our family and is under a new sister who is established in our family as the firstborn.

I think it would work out great if you could find a sibling group that kept age order. We wanted that but we met our precious children and fell in love with them through a woman who was fostering them. We prayed about it and felt the Lord calling us to these children. No matter what advice you get you have to do what you think is best for your family.

Posted by momto8pack on Oct 11, 2009 at 11:00pm

We were adopted a sibling group of 6.  I agree with Momto6pack, try to stay in birth order.  We were approved b/c we had the room and experience with having up to 7 foster children.  When we were approved for the higher number of children, the state began to send larger sibling groups to us to choose from. 

It has been difficult, to say the least.  Our children had moderate issues that quickly turned out to be much more severe than we were first told.  After 3 years, we just finished the trial that will put their father away for the rest of his life.  We had to pursue that.  DFCS refused to prosecute one of the worst cases of sexual abuse our state has seen.

Posted by Tudu on Oct 13, 2009 at 6:58pm

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