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Posted by reneets to U.S. Newborn Waiting Parents on Apr 15, 2012 at 12:31am | 6 Comments | Post a reply

My first time posting here. I’m really in need of advice. I was set to adopt last November though an agency in Arizona. I was assured it was a very strong situation, so I went ahead and signed the contract even though it said that if the adoption failed, I would need to stay with that agency or loss 50% of their $23,000 agency fee. Unfortunately, the birth mom decided to stay with the birth dad because he has been clean for three weeks. It has been six months since then and I have not been matched with any more birth moms. The agency has VERY few situations, a total of only 10 since the first of the year. To make matters worse, I am not likely to be easily chosen because I am older than 50 and I am single. Before all of this, I had my name out with seven different agencies. Now, I am stuck with this one agency that is doing nothing for me because I can’t just walk away from $12,500. I couldn’t have imagined myself in a worse situation.

My lawyer advises me that I can’t do anything about it since I signed the contract other than to beg them to reneogiate the contract.

If anyone can offer advice, I would be most grateful. This situation gets me so upset I can hardly even speak about it.

Many thanks,

reneets

Replies

Not sure about this . . . but can’t you claim the expenses on a failed adoption and get the tax credit? Might be worth checking out . . .

Posted by mamamia on Apr 15, 2012 at 12:34am

You should be able to claim the failed adoption certainly. I am sorry to hear this. We are with lifetime and they do over a hundred a year and we have been waiting since 2009 :( our babies are out there somewhere I an sure. They just have to be!!! Best wishes!

Posted by kmoore on Apr 15, 2012 at 2:06am

I am so sorry! I am a little confused—why are you not with the 7 other agencies in addition to this one?? I hope some people post good advice for you.
Hugs.

Posted by babydreams on Apr 15, 2012 at 2:16am

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I sent you a message privately.

Posted by Jean Marie on Apr 15, 2012 at 4:35am

Have you considered adopting a child who has already been born and relinquished or had parental rights removed by the state? A child truly in need of a good home? Children’s Services in most states would be happy to place such a child with a good parent, even one who is over 50 and single, and in adoptions of fostered children the state helps with expenses instead of charging fees.

Posted by Patsymae on Apr 15, 2012 at 6:20pm