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We're matched!! .... or are we??

Posted by rsfor13 to U.S. Newborn Waiting Parents on Apr 23, 2012 at 8:15pm | 8 Comments | Post a reply

So on April 5th I got the best phone call of my life when my social worker called to say we had been picked and the baby was due 4/18. They didn’t expect him to make it to his due date so they told us to prepare, pack and be ready to go….

The BM had an appointment on the 10th and she called to say she was 2cm and all was well and that she’d meet us at the hospital. Our agency suggested we write her a card, which we gladly did. Her next appointment was 4/17 and they were going to talk about inducing her at this point.

4/17 came and went…I got a call the next morning saying she hadn’t checked in. Thursday came around and my social worker said her mom had checked in and said ‘as far as she knew’ the plan was still in place and she just hasn’t felt like talking to anyone. We found out she’s being induced TOMORROW…..and I’ve heard NOTHING since :(

She never was quite clear about ‘when’ she’d meet us at the hospital and our agency kept telling us as they knew things, they’d tell us. Honestly, at this point, it hasn’t been too much other than we were chosen and pack your bags.

So here we are…bags packed, bottles sterilized, car set strapped in and 2 VERY nervous and anxious HOPEFUL parents to be and we’re like 2 sitting ducks!!

I’ve emailed my social worker. I dont want to be a pain becuase I would HOPE they’d call me if they knew anything but I’m seriously jumping out of my skin right now!!!

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Wow, I bet you are!
Just have faith, take a deeeeeep breathe, and process as best as you can!
Sending you happy, happy thoughts!

Posted by Kris10Leigh on Apr 23, 2012 at 8:17pm

Don’t freak out. Babies go overdue. But I would be politely calling the agency at least every other day at this point for an update.

Good luck to you!

Do you have to travel far?

Posted by Genevieve's Mom on Apr 23, 2012 at 8:54pm

Thank you ladies. Yes, we have to travel about 6 hours and he’s being induced tomorrow morning so thats my stress….are we going or are we not going!?!??!

Last I heard from the agency was Thursday. I emailed today about 12:20 but didnt hear back yet. THey told me when they knew something, they’d call…so I hate to be a pain but seriously!?!? I’m hanging by a thread here…

Posted by rsfor13 on Apr 23, 2012 at 9:04pm

Oh, congrats!! You MUST be going nuts! I agree with the above, DEEP cleansing breaths, and positive thoughts! *smile This is a crazy, happy, nervous, excited, frustrating time. I also agree with Genevieve’sMom, I would call the agency every other day to see if they have any info for you…Don’t think of yourself as a pain, they have a lot of BMs and prospective parents they are working with, things get busy, you have to be the ‘squeaky wheel’ in order to get some answers.
Go For It!! And let us know what happens! *smile
Sending HUGE Blessings for a successful adoption.
Meg

Posted by myadoptioncoach on Apr 23, 2012 at 9:15pm

Thanks Meg ((hugs))

Posted by rsfor13 on Apr 24, 2012 at 2:05am

We’d been matched 4 months and had regular meetings with birthmom. On her due date, they “couldn’t find her” and her phone was dead. We were totally freaked out. After they found her, we were told she was going to be induced maybe on this day then that day and we wouldn’t hear usually unless we called. It was super stressful the way it was handled. We went home with our beautiful baby. So I hope that gives you hope. We didn’t know really until the last possible moment so that is what is so hard. We kept trying to focus on the birth mom and on supporting her and after the baby was born we focused on supporting her and her baby. Then it was time to sign and she did and we went home with the baby. Unbelievable!

Posted by katew on Apr 24, 2012 at 4:54am

Unfortunately we were devastated to find out that the burthmom’s ex has really been pressuring her and pretty much forced her out of making the adoption plan. So instead of packing up the car, I spent the night unpacking our bags and we’re back at square one. :(

Posted by rsfor13 on Apr 25, 2012 at 5:30am