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Trying to explain to my parents why I want to adopt

Hello all, I was hoping to find some stories on how people dealt with family that isn’t 100% on board with adoption to help get ideas on how to explain to my own parents why I want to do it. For context I am 26, female and single living in Morocco (I am Moroccan). In this country we have lifelong fostering of a specific child, not adoption and it is taboo for a child to be born out of wedlock. Only couples and single women are allowed to take charge of an abandoned child and there rarely if ever a case of the birth mother choosing an adoptive parent. My own parents know that I intend to do this soon but they always bring up my dating life and say that it would better to simply set up a monthly donation for a specific child in an orphanage. So far my sister is on board but she lives an ocean away, my parents’ main concern is no man will want me if I have a kid. Although this may sound extreme in Morocco it a very valid concern because it is true, even a divorced woman with children is likely to spend the rest of her life single. I have made my peace with that fact and working on the financial side of things, owning a home and car for instance. My mother is likely to simply accept the situation once a grandchild is here for her to spoil, my issue is more that as a single woman without brothers my father may be required to stand in court with me and pledge to be my child’s father figure. I need him on my side but each time I speak to him he says I am young and that I should focus on dating. Any information on how you may have dealt with a parents’ resistance would be a blessing.


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