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Trying for Fertility and Adoption at the Same Time

Hi All,

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for some time with no success. The reason unidentifiedto by Doctors so we haven’t given up hope, but are looking into adoption also. I find it a huge blessing that we have always wanted to adopt, even before the infertility was known. Either way we will be thrilled, but neither comes without it’s challenges, so we are open. Daily I am using and to explore both options and am learning so much!

Is anyone here experiencing the same situation? BTW if you haven’t used those sites, you should check them out. They have helped us tremendously.



Hi Sunny
My husband and I are in the same boat. thank you for the heads up on the websites as we are at the begining of the adoption journey as well.  I have been exploring which has been pretty informative.  We have been able to get our home study completed though our local county human services department at no cost while we have been exploring our agency options.

Posted by CarlaRose on Nov 18, 2014 at 8:08pm

I started with infertility and then did both, adoption just happened first and then again and again. We thought we were done and then got pregnant despite being told it was not possible without IVF and now are again. We were older and wanted to do both because we didn’t want to wait long. When we started trying to adopt we did foster to adopt first and then private designated twice. Best of luck it is all great however it works out.

Posted by Private And Foster Mom on Nov 18, 2014 at 9:29pm

A lot of agencies/workers do not like working with couples who are still trying to conceive. They invest a lot of time and money that they will lose if you end up getting pregnant. Also, many will want you to have resolved any grief or other issues relating to infertility before they will allow you to move on toward adoption.

Posted by rn4kidz on Nov 18, 2014 at 10:07pm

I can totally understand a couple trying both at the same time, especially given how long both methods can take. But m4kidz is right - most of the attorneys we talked to in our city “required” that we be finished trying to have children biologically before jumping into adoption. (I put required in quotes because there’s no way for them to enforce it.)

Posted by JNC on Nov 18, 2014 at 11:23pm

We adopted from foster care.  They knew we would still be pursuing fertility treatment, but we decided early on that if both were successful we would just have two kids.  They seemed ok with that.

Posted by housefrau on Nov 19, 2014 at 8:15pm

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