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The Aftermath of a Failed Match
I posted a couple of weeks ago that the match we were in fell through when the expectant mother decided that she wanted to parent. This, of course, has been extremely hard on us, as we were just three weeks away from the birth of the baby when she just stopped responding to all messages. We finally called our agency because we were so worried and they let us know that she had made the decision to parent. Apparently, they had encouraged her to call, but she didn’t (I’m not surprised, she’s very young, and my guess is not emotionally mature enough to make such a tough phone call).
At any rate, we are trying to cope, and having a tough time. We’ve had to “untell” people that the baby is coming, and of course repeat such hard news to friends and family every time they ask for an update. We’ll definitely keep quieter next time we’re matched. My question is, how have you (those of you who have gone through a failed match) coped with the loss and heartache? I feel like it’s hard for most people to understand, and my own family is doing grieving of their own, so it’s hard to talk to them about it. How do you keep from shutting down with the next match?
The thread on the Rollercoaster was helpful—thank you for that! I’m just curious about how those who have gone through this heartbreak have dealt with it.
Thanks, everyone, for your support and optimism!
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