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Single mom in Florida- need advice!


hi
I live with my boyfriend of 6 years but we have elected not to marry. I’ll be adopting as a single parent. Does anyone have advice regarding agencies/atty’s? For my profile- show as a couple (he will be father) or as a single?
thanks!

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Wow. You must have been reading my mind. I am in the exact co-habitating situation and looking to adopt. I have been wondering the same thing. Thank you for getting this conversation started smile

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Posted by hkopec on Nov 22, 2015 at 10:38pm

For your homestudy, be aware that your boyfriend will need to be included, as any adult in your household will need a background check and so on.  And if he contributes to the upkeep of the home, his financials will also have to be part of the homestudy.  The social worker may need to comment on why you both decided not to marry, and may ask him his feelings about the adoption.

Do be aware that some women who are making an adoption plan may not be comfortable placing a child with an unmarried couple.  Often, the reason is that they had a steady boyfriend—until they got pregnant and he disappeared.  They may feel that they want people who’ve demonstrated a stable marriage.  Some of the young women may also have religious objections.

As far as a profile, I think that you’ll have to state the facts as they are.  You are adopting as a single, because that’s the law, but your boyfriend will be living with you and part of your baby’s life.  Now, IF Florida allows what are called “second parent adoptions”, once you finalize your child’s adoption, he can apply to the court, with your permission, to acquire the same parental rights that you have.  Unfortunately, though, only a few states have a second parent adoption law.  Second parent adoption is not the same as stepparent adoption, because in your case, you and your boyfriend will not be married.  Most states allow stepparent adoption, in which a person marries someone with children and applies to the court to become their official stepparent.

Sharon

Posted by sak9645 on Nov 22, 2015 at 11:52pm

Jodi Rutstein in Florida is an amazing attorney.  She works diligently for adoptive parents and will help you if you are single, married, widowed - she does not care.  She is amazing and will find you the right baby!! We have multiple babies and she has been an incredible advocate for many of our friends (some single and some married).

Posted by JOYFULLY on Nov 23, 2015 at 1:42am

Thank you all for this very helpful information. I really appreciate it!

Posted by Mkj on Nov 23, 2015 at 2:55am

Highly recommend a consultant for single women adopting. Used one for my adoption & it saved me a lot of time & really helped me through the arduous process. Life saver. Friend of mine runs her own firm and is an adoptive mom as well. Here’s her info if you’d like to reach out! Rebecca Gruenspan: .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address). Website: http://www.rgadoptionconsulting.com
Just a suggestion!! Best of luck!!
Kerry

Posted by Kerryannie21 on Nov 26, 2015 at 1:21am

thank you!

Posted by Mkj on Nov 26, 2015 at 2:40am

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