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Recommendations: share photos/updates online with birth family?

We adopted an infant 10 months ago and the birth mother asked if we had a social media page that she and her family could see photos of our son. I told her our agency discouraged that but that I would look into other options. Do you have any recommendations of something we could create just for the birth family?


It depends on your level of comfort you have with the birth family. Social media pictures even in a private group can be shared and downloaded and you have no control. I use a google drive folder that allows pictures to be viewed but not downloaded. I’m sure they can take a screen shot but it makes it a little more difficult.  They get a notification in their email when I upload new photos. I will also send hard copies in the mail. My kiddos were adopted as older children and there are other concerns so we try to be open but have boundaries. We are friends on social media with some of their extended family just not immediate family.

Posted by Two Cats and a Cradle on Nov 17, 2019 at 10:32pm

I send birth mom photos via Messenger on Facebook. I don’t have her as my friend though but you don’t have to be to use that feature. We do however do visits about 4 times a year and I’ll show her pictures then too. My babies were 4 and 5 when I got them. I am friends with a lot of birth mom’s family on social media so they have access to pictures I post. You really can’t stop anyone from downloading and keeping a copy of the pictures you send them these days. Just do whatever feels comfortable for you, me and birth mom have a great relationship but I don’t want to follow her on social media.

Posted by FinallyMama on Nov 18, 2019 at 1:30am

I text Dd’s bmom pictures (she is 14 now and wont get in many pix…ha!) but we aren’t fb friends.  I do think you can share via email online shutterfly albums etc.

Posted by mamallama on Nov 18, 2019 at 3:07am

Not sure why this would be discouraged. If there are no safety concerns, there are many ways to share pics. We have a private FB group. The posts do not show up on my page. Our son is happy that birth mom, birth dad and their families can see how he is doing. He is now 11 and we have never had a single problem with this set up.

Posted by Lucy2012 on Nov 18, 2019 at 9:41pm

I like private FB pages. They work well and you have more control. Like Lucy stated. Good luck.

Posted by KelliBruce on Mar 05, 2020 at 4:15pm

Aside from dangerous situations or pics that identify your address or the child’s school or something like that, what is the objection to the parents downloading pics? Even if they want to share with their friends.
I just don’t get it

Posted by NoraT on Mar 06, 2020 at 1:03am

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