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This is my first post - and quite honestly, I will keep it simple as their are many family dynamics that really require some in depth soul searching on my part.

Mainly, I have zero desire for BM (my daughter) to be anywhere near my granddaughter whom I have adopted.  She has had zero interest in her child since the day she was born, I have been “Mom” since day one, cutting the cord, colic and teething etc…and now she’s 2 1/2.

Am I wrong to feel this way?  GD really just knows us as Mom and Dad - her BM still is way into the drug scene, has been into prostitution, and quite honestly our nice little family does not need the drama. 

Rita from Chicago


Rita, trust me those of us here understand completely.  My niece did have her kids for awhile but then her lifestyle got the better of her.  I was mad at her for not calling them on Christmas but then realized that it’s for the best.  They are my daughters and don’t need her drama because it is always about her.  Although we have a verbal open adoption for both girls she never takes advantage of it.  I used to reach out to her to do visits twice a year but decided that she can step up and call if she wants to see them.  She can’t even make a phone call and when she does call it is because she wants something and rarely asks about the girls.

Just live your life and leave her and her drama go their own way.

Posted by C3 on Jan 02, 2018 at 4:20am

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