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Hi. My husband and I are really new to this process and don’t really know where to start. We are strongly leaning towards a domestic newborn adoption but don’t really know where to go from there. We live in the NYC/Westchester area and if anyone could shed some light on what the next steps are I would really appreciate it. Thanks!!


Welcome to the process! I remember my husband and I feeling very overwhelmed in the beginning. You need to start doing some research into the route you’d like to take as far as using an agency, etc. Going to the government website (you can just Google it) helps narrowing down your options a bit. I also strongly encourage buying a book or renting one from the library that will help with some of the lingo. Something with a glossary. We did not use the agency but American Adoptions has a very good website with lots of information that really helped my husband understand it and really get on board. I wish you all the best! It’s the best decision we have ever made!

Posted by NavyWife11 on Oct 24, 2017 at 11:52pm

Thank you!!

Posted by ErinV on Oct 25, 2017 at 5:46pm

This is an article I wrote awhile back that should help:

NY has a lot of restrictions - many agencies and adoption professionals outside of NY do not work with NY families. I recommend finding a private adoption group in your state and asking for more specifics about that.

Btw, as part of the lingo: Any adoption that isn’t through foster care is private. You can have a private agency adoption or a private independent adoption. In NY, the latter would mean you would use an attorney instead of an agency.

Good luck on your adoption journey!

Posted by rredhead on Oct 26, 2017 at 1:34am

It is very overwhelming! We ended up working with an agency but I also have a close friend who worked with a consultant she liked a lot and then found her “match” privately via the internet so she spent a lot less $ total than if she had gone the agency route. If I had to do it over again I think I might talk to a consultant first to get a better picture of all the options rather than having to do all the research myself. The woman she worked with is She’s an adoptive mom also so my friend felt like she was very empathetic about how hard the process is.

Posted by JDMM2012 on Jan 22, 2018 at 9:12pm

We self -matched with our second adoption in 10 days!  Typically, it is much faster and much less expensive.

Posted by Adoption Hopes on Jan 27, 2018 at 4:28am

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