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Posted by yesimln to U.S. Adoptive Families on May 31, 2012 at 7:05pm | 15 Comments | Post a reply

Friends,

Our daughter is almost 9 months old now. We were supposed to finalize at the end of March but the judge in our case has taken issue with something (I’d rather not disclose for privacy/legal reasons) and still has not issued our finalization decree. We are beside ourselves with worry, and racking up legal bills to say the least as we try to make our family once and forever ours.

We encountered disruptions in our journey here. We encountered heartache. We encountered a lot of anxiety and joy of course as we navigated the early days of having our girl with us. I cannot fathom losing her, but now I cannot get it out of my head that we might.

Did anyone here encounter finalization dramas? Any advice or insights?

Thanks. Ellen

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Oh my gosh! I am so hopeful for you and your family, especially your daughter. Have they given you a timeframe in which they will let you know the final outcome? I hope you’ll keep us posted. I haven’t experienced what you are, but I can imagine the suffering you are going through.

Wishing you peace and comfort during this time.

Posted by over40mom on May 31, 2012 at 7:14pm

no drama at finalization but definitely at TPR. i hope everything works out. what does your lawyer have to say?

Posted by lincolnlog on May 31, 2012 at 7:54pm

my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. wishing you the best of luck

Posted by rn4kidz on May 31, 2012 at 8:15pm

Praying for peace…. I know finalizing will bring that!

May the Lord bless and keep you!

Posted by Erin K on May 31, 2012 at 8:26pm

Praying for the best outcome for everyone.

Posted by Joanne0911 on May 31, 2012 at 8:40pm

We had drama at finalization, with questions about the unknown birth father, the amount of money we paid ($16k), and the fact that our lawyer was working pro bono (does that for everyone through our agency). but thankfully our lawyer could prove that we were completely following the law so the judge ended up approving it anyway. Made for a sad and disappointing day when it should have been a happy day though. Praying you get answers quickly and everything is fine.

Posted by manders242 on May 31, 2012 at 8:59pm

We just had drama with our post placement social worker and agency but none at finalization. I feel terrible for you and the stress and worry you’re going through. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you are posting a positive update very soon.

Posted by Tressi on May 31, 2012 at 9:13pm

I am so sorry to hear your troubles! Our home study and the finalization were honestly the only good parts of our adoption. Well of course our son but u get the point. I will pray for you!!!

Posted by mistila on May 31, 2012 at 9:41pm

Ellen,

Hugs, I don’t have any advice, but I will pray for you. I can’t imagine what you are going through.

We had a hard time with the placement, and afterwards we had some issues with the birthmother. I recently reached out to her and things are better. I took me time and prayer to get there.

Best of luck.

Sharon

Posted by Happygirl2012 on May 31, 2012 at 11:36pm

Sending prayers your way!

Posted by blumoon1919 on Jun 01, 2012 at 2:50am

I will be praying.

Posted by gqqfier15 on Jun 01, 2012 at 4:37am

I sympathize with what you are going through, but since you don’t want to say what the issue is that the judge has, hard to give advice. I hope it works out for the best for all who are involved, especially the child.

Posted by Patsymae on Jun 01, 2012 at 6:02am

Sending you prayers!!!!!! God Bless you and your family.

Posted by Bo&Jay; on Jun 01, 2012 at 3:54pm

Thinking of you, hoping you have better news soon.

Posted by jszmom on Jun 04, 2012 at 8:13pm