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We have a 5 year old foster daughter we are trying to adopt we have had her for 5 1/2 months, we adopted her biological (same birth mother) brother in January he is 2. I will try to make a long story short, the BM was in jail and was supposed to be there for 3 years and much to everyones surprise was released in February. The TPR trial has been continued several times, we are now due to go to court next week. Since February she has been in a sober living facility in Reno and has had no contact with our daughter until recently. there was a phone call last week and there will be one this week and she wants to see her before the trial next week. She has been telling the case worker that she is going to relinquish her rights but has not done it yet, I got an open adoption agreement from her attorney, I wont go into all of the details but it included visitation, phone calls once a week and unlimited correspondence (cards, letters, pictures, etc.) my Father didnt get that much when my parents divorced 30 years ago, and he had to pay child support! This woman had 5 children, one is 20 and has aged out of the system, one is 15 and has been adopted, we adopted the 2 year old. There is a 13 year old that we are in no position to adopt and our daughter. My daughter has lived in foster care and homeless shelters since she was born, I really dont think it is in her best interest to have contact with her BM its too confusing for her at this point. I will agree to send pictures and a letter twice a year but thats as far as I am willing to go. If we agreed to her tems she said she would relinquish, I dont agree to her terms but the TPR is not guaranteed. I dont know what to do. Has anyone been in this position? Can anyone share their experience or offer any advice?
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