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Moving up to next day care class


Hello! I have a 14 month old little boy who we are in the process of adopting. He was placed with us three months ago! He has developmental delays but has made great gains! He went for not being able to independently sit to crawling around and pulling up to stand in three months!

He is currently in the transition class in day care. They are suppose to move on to the next class at 15 months. His teacher talked to me about moving him up or keeping him in the transition class longer. They are suppose to be walking before they move up, however she said they have had one child who’s therapist recommended moving him up even though he couldn’t walk so he could be around more advanced kiddos. Have any of you ran into this? We are not sure if we want to move him up or wait until he is walking. There is a smaller child to adult ratio in the class he is in now so he is getting more attention now!

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Children with no delays can start walking even later than 15months so don’t use walking as a guide.  I would base it more on his social and emotional development. 
You want them to feel challenged but not frustrated.

Posted by LSinTV on Feb 14, 2013 at 8:39pm

My daughter’s both have developmental delays and have always done much better in smaller group settings. My oldest thrives on the one on one attention and my younger daughter gets overwhelmed in larger groups. My girls are now 9 and 8 and my 9 yo is still in small groups in school - her delays are language and academic. My other daughter is now in a regular public school classroom and doing well(straight A’s) - her delays are physical, but she had been in a private school in a class of 12. She has done well with the transition, but was very nervous about it. I understand what the teacher is saying about watching the more advanced kids to encourage him to progress, but if he is trying his best and not keeping up it may discourage him more than encourage him. Does he go to therapy now? If not, I would suggest getting him into physical/occupational therapy as soon as possible. If he is, I would discuss the situation with his therapist.

Posted by momof3eaj on Feb 14, 2013 at 8:48pm

Thank you. He is currently receiving OT, PT and developmental therapy. I have talked to his PT but my husband and I are still unsure. We are leaning towards keeping him in the transition class for a while longer. He is thriving in the class and he is still being challenged in that class. He also thrives with one on one attention. He is a social and happy little guy but I am worried that with his cognitive delays the demands of the next class will frustrate him at this time.

Posted by Forevermommy11-17-12 on Feb 14, 2013 at 9:14pm

As an adoptive mom and early childhood specialist I think you hit on the answer yourself, “He is thriving and being challenged.”  It is also important to remember that no decision you make today can’t be changed if it isn’t meeting his needs. If you move him now and he’s unhappy - go back for a couple months and then transition again later. If you keep him where he is and he continues to make this incredible progress, he will need to move up to continue being challenged. Trust your gut!

Posted by 08mom2one on Feb 14, 2013 at 10:12pm

You obviously know your child best but I can tell you what I was told in my sons’ day care.  Babies stay in an Infant room until they’re about 15 months old and then transition into the Toddler room.  The teachers have told me that if a child is not yet walking by the time they transition to the Toddler room, being with all those walking kids is a real incentive to begin walking.  So they usually begin walking very quickly once they’re in the Toddler room.  Of course, this may be a different story for a child with developmental delays but it is just a thought.  Kids learn so much from each other and peer pressure really helps that along!  The other possibility is to talk to the day care about trying him in the new room and if it seems overwhelming, drop him back for a month or so and then try again.  Kids just seem primed to try new things if they’re not thrust into it without enough positive support.

Posted by sacohe on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:03pm

My son was 22 months old when we adopted him.  He had just started walking and was not talking at all.  We chose a small at home daycare with 6 kids total, and it just so happened that most of the kids were about his age, just slightly older.  He has absolutely thrived, and learned so much from his little friends.  From day one, he tried to everything they could do.  Some things were easier than others, but the kids always included him, and encouraged him. He just turned 3 now, and is at age level in all developmental areas. I think having him around his age group had a lot to do with it.

Posted by pepperth on Feb 14, 2013 at 11:17pm

If he’s social and happy, by all means keep him with his peers. You didn’t specify whether his delays are cognitive or from neglect, so it’s hard for me to say whether he will be motivated or discouraged, but kids that age engage in mostly parallel play, so he isn’t really focused on what the other kids can do. There’s not really a wrong answer. good luck.

Posted by hdctx on Feb 19, 2013 at 8:17am

How many moves has he had? From birth mom to you or were there foster homes inbetween? Is he emotionally ready to have his world changed again or does he need som time to chill?

Posted by Regina on Feb 19, 2013 at 8:59am

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