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We adopted my daughter at age 8, however she has live with us for a total of 5 years. So she has been in our home for a long time. She has recently started to fall behind (like getting overall F grades) in school. We tested her for an IEP, which she did not met the criteria. We have got her after school help and work about 2-3 hrs on homework. Because of the amount that is sent home. (I hate 3rd grade.) So we have noticed that she is messing up extremely easy questions but the way she goes about it makes us think she is doing it for attention. Now I have two other children that also would love for a bit of attention, but I am always helping her so they don’t get as much as they would like.

Well this weekend we played a game juste and her, she read to me as we snuggled on the couch and just had mom and daughter time. Well I then did the same with my boy and she was mad. First she said “um what are you doing?” I told her. Then she said “I am going to wait right here until you come back with me.” I explained that she already had my time and now I am giving it to my son. She stormed off and threw a fit (she just give everyone the silent treatment).

I don’t know what to do anymore. I have given this child everything I have love, support, and so much more. What else can I do? I feel lost and hurt. I am running out of strength to continue.


This is the age when many adoption issues arise. Does she know her story? Does she have any questions?

Posted by Regina on Mar 13, 2018 at 5:40pm

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