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Just starting out..

Posted by laurac1217 to Blended Families on Mar 20, 2011 at 3:55am | 2 Comments | Post a reply

i was wondering if anyone had advice for my husband and I . We have an amazing 4 year old son and beginning the adoption process. Any advice about starting, talking to your child(biological) about adoption, etc.
Thank you so much,
Laura

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Hi there Laura,

Welcome to AFC. Good luck as you’re starting out !

One of our new bloggers, Meghan, is forming a blended family (with two bio daughters (ages 2 and 4) and a son to be adopted from Korea) and she’s written on this very topic. You might enjoy the following posts:

http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com/blogs/post/how_to_talk_to_a_toddler_about_adoption/

http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com/blogs/post/talking_with_children_about_birth_and_adoption/

here’s her blog http://www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com/blogs/blog/blended_biological_adopted/

Adoptive Families magazine also has this great guide on talking to toddlers about adoption http://adoptivefamilies.com/printable/talking_adoption_3-5.html

All the best,

Mary

Posted by AFCommunityEditor on Mar 30, 2011 at 1:20am

We had four kids when we adopted our son and daughter five years ago. We treated the whole process like a grand adventure (which it was, of course) and included the kids in every step including travel to Guatemala, talking about names ( we decided together to keep birth names with added middle names which was the idea of my then 4 year old daughter), choosing baby gear, etc.

The kids were as excited as we were and the transition was wonderful. Which is not to say that there weren’t many “new sibling” issues but, honestly, it was no different than bringing bio baby number four home from the hospital.

Good luck! Keep us posted on your adventure. I’m excited for all three ( and soon four) of you!

Posted by GuateMaMa on Dec 22, 2011 at 6:55pm