National Adoption Directory


Find an Adoption Agency

Find an Adoption Attorney

Full Directory ►

Join Adoption Groups!

Click the arrows to expand each group category below

Family Building Options

Starting Out in Adoption

Waiting to Adopt

U.S. Newborn Adoption

U.S. Foster Adoption

International Adoption

My Family

My Adoption Interests

My Child's Age/Stage

My Location

The Adoption Triad

Adoptive Families Magazine

Older Child Adoption

Ice Breaker Tomorrow!


We finally have our ice breaker meeting scheduled for tomorrow and I’m super nervous. Meeting a 10 year old boy and attempting to make a connection seems awkward enough, but then there’s the case worker watching over us. We are waiting to hear back from the case worker to find out what we are even doing tomorrow and where. Anyone have any advice? Anyone have any experiences they can share with the next few bits of the process?

Replies

It depends upon how much the young man knows at this stage but we prepared a photo album for our seven year old daughter. It was before she visited our home for the first time and after she had been told we were prospective parents. It was a small album which included photos of our home, neighborhood, church, friends, hobbies, etc. We didn’t have pets or children at the time but you could add relevant photos that reflect your lives.  We brought a board game. It was a lot more fun when visits began. We went to all kinds of places.

Posted by shininglight71 on Oct 31, 2018 at 7:32pm

Take a fun game to play with him. Something silly where you can all laugh.

Posted by CyberShelle on Oct 31, 2018 at 7:58pm

Take a fun game to play with him. Something silly where you can all laugh.

Posted by CyberShelle on Oct 31, 2018 at 7:58pm

all good ideas. Some kids feel tricked visits all about fun, treats and play and then they get home and it is about brushing teeth, chores and homework. You might discuss (not the first day) things like is he used to doing chores? What does he like to do? How does he like to do homework on floor or table so he gets the idea your home will not be all fun but he will have responsibilities as well. Some kids feel it is a bait and switch scenario.

Posted by Regina on Nov 01, 2018 at 12:40am

His team had mentioned introducing us as mentors rather than prospective parents so I’m not sure how they will actually introduce us, but I will bring the photo book I made about us, that’s a great idea. I will also look for one of our more travel friendly games to bring just in case. Thanks for the feedback!

Posted by fashionbug1989 on Nov 01, 2018 at 2:25pm

How did it go?

Posted by Regina on Nov 04, 2018 at 10:02pm

Reply to this thread

You must be logged in to reply. To login, click here. Not a member? Join AdoptiveFamiliesCircle today. It's free and easy!







NATIONAL ADOPTION DIRECTORY


Find an Adoption Agency

Find an Adoption Attorney or Agency



Search the full directory ►