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Ice Breaker Tomorrow!
We finally have our ice breaker meeting scheduled for tomorrow and I’m super nervous. Meeting a 10 year old boy and attempting to make a connection seems awkward enough, but then there’s the case worker watching over us. We are waiting to hear back from the case worker to find out what we are even doing tomorrow and where. Anyone have any advice? Anyone have any experiences they can share with the next few bits of the process?
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It depends upon how much the young man knows at this stage but we prepared a photo album for our seven year old daughter. It was before she visited our home for the first time and after she had been told we were prospective parents. It was a small album which included photos of our home, neighborhood, church, friends, hobbies, etc. We didn’t have pets or children at the time but you could add relevant photos that reflect your lives. We brought a board game. It was a lot more fun when visits began. We went to all kinds of places.
Take a fun game to play with him. Something silly where you can all laugh.
Take a fun game to play with him. Something silly where you can all laugh.
all good ideas. Some kids feel tricked visits all about fun, treats and play and then they get home and it is about brushing teeth, chores and homework. You might discuss (not the first day) things like is he used to doing chores? What does he like to do? How does he like to do homework on floor or table so he gets the idea your home will not be all fun but he will have responsibilities as well. Some kids feel it is a bait and switch scenario.
His team had mentioned introducing us as mentors rather than prospective parents so I’m not sure how they will actually introduce us, but I will bring the photo book I made about us, that’s a great idea. I will also look for one of our more travel friendly games to bring just in case. Thanks for the feedback!
How did it go?
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