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How to say "open to visits if you're healthy/safe?"
My head is spinning…we might have a baby next month! An expectant mom chose us and we’re having our first call with her tonight. I’m super nervous. All I know is that she would like annual visits, but I’m not sure we can actually commit to that without knowing her yet. Hypothetically, we were always open to that, but only if the mom is healthy and safe for the child to be around. There has been some drug use and currently a not so great home situation, so that makes me a little nervous. I’m wondering what to say about the level of openness if we’re asked tonight…how do I convey “we’re open to lots of letters and updates now, and we’ll see about visits once we get to know you better” without totally offending her? I hate to commit to something we can’t keep up with and backing out later, want to be totally honest. I know that normally those questions would take time to bring up, but since it’s such a short wait, it will probably need to be addressed pretty soon. How would you phrase it?
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