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How to Console Expectant Birth Mothers Considering Adoption

A birth mother needs love and endless support from friends and family when she is considering placing her child for adoption. She is likely going through a difficult time and needs empathy and support more than anything else. With you by her side, she will be able to navigate through this journey and feel confident in her ability to place her child for adoption.


Who is this post directed to?  Please tell me it is not directed to the people who want to adopt the baby, as they should not play any part in keeping the expectant mom ‘on track’ to place.  They must remain neutral because all mothers must remake / make their decision after their baby is born.

PS - until she signs away her rights, she is an expectant mother, language matters in adoption right?

Posted by Toa on Aug 11, 2017 at 4:41pm

This sounds like an adoption agency add to me. Not a discussion.

Posted by Happy Camper on Aug 18, 2017 at 10:31pm

Happy Camper, I couldn’t agree with you more. This should be titled How To Pressure an Expectant Mother to Place (as you know, she’s not a “birth mother” while still pregnant.
For example, directing a conflicted pregnant woman with the statement that surrendering is how to express love for your child is not “consoling” anyone, it’s manipulative.

As an aside: “likely going through a difficult time”? Likely? Really? How tone deaf and callous is that?

Posted by Maryam on Aug 18, 2017 at 10:55pm

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