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Hair Care resource list

I know Dr. Jackson listed one (really great!) resource website for hair care ( in her hair/skin care chat, but I thought I would add a few of the resources I’ve found.  I’m an almost-obsessive researcher, so even though I have very curly hair myself, I went into research overdrive during our wait preparing myself for the hair care needs of our future baby.  It seemed like some of the folks posting questions were at pretty much the beginning and didn’t know where to start, so I hope that my results are helpful for you! - This website, by Teri LaFlesh, author of “Curly Like Me”, has a hair care regime with adaptations for kids.  It also has a list of recommended products (kept up to date as product formulae change!) and, for the super-nerdy, an ingredient database.  If you’re looking for products that will keep your child’s hair healthy, this is the place to go!  I know a lot of her emphasis is on growing the hair long, because that’s her thing, but the advice is good for anyone who wants healthy hair. - Their guide to what type of curl your kiddo has is INVALUABLE.  It’s one of the most detailed I’ve found, and is especially good as it recommends product TYPES for each kind of curl. (e.g.: My 3b curls need gel with serious frizz control, my daughter’s 4a curls need styling creams, butters, and oils with extra moisture)  Also good here are photos of celebs with various curly types and cuts, product reviews, etc.  Just beware: as with any site that has a lot of user comment, the quality of the commentary varies from poster to poster! - a blog format with lots of room for comments.  It has sections (under Mind & Body) for Skin care, as well as under Style for Kids styles.  I’m new to this site, but I’m looking forward to eating it up. - has a TON of cute styles for girls and lots of instruction on how to achieve them, along with a rundown of their hair regimen and product reviews and giveaways. - a hair blog from a transracially adoptive family.  lots of great how-to videos and a ton of style ideas. - one of my original finds and still one of my favorites.  This is a transracial, blended adoptive family who does lots and lots of instructional video.  Most of the styles are for their two brown daughters, but their caucasian daughter loves to get in on the action with her big sisters, and she does product reviews for boys, too.  They have regimen reviews and instruction.  I think that before the blog, it was just a youtube channel, you can find that here:

So, I hope this helps you get started on developing a care routine for your own kids that works!


Wow.  Thanks for sharing all of your research!!

Posted by Danielle Pennel on Nov 21, 2011 at 8:36am

Thanks for the info!

Can’t wait to start reading and to figure out what is best for my mixed race curly head daughter. I have tried many things and still haven’t found the right combo.

Posted by momtomany on Nov 21, 2011 at 9:00am

Thank you for your hardwork!!!

Posted by Our new journey on Nov 21, 2011 at 10:30am

Thank you so much!  This are great resources!

Posted by SusanC on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:48am

I know most of the stuff I posted is for curly-haired folks, and that mostly for girls.  That’s just because that’s the boat I’m sailing, so that’s where I’ve directed my research. 

Here’s a blog I’ve found that’s good for straight-haired girl styles, along with accessories, giveaways, and product recommendations.

Also, if you hop onto these blogs and look at the beautiful (and often elaborate!) styles and think “I could never do that!” I highly recommend you look here:  It’s a post in which Kate reflects on how far she and her girls have come with hair from her first “lesson” in how to do cornrows and the simple styles they started with.

Posted by Thalas'shaya on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:57am

Thanks so much!

Posted by Felicia on Nov 21, 2011 at 11:57am

Thanks for all the great websites!  I am a transracial adoptive mom with a 16 month old.  Her hair is too short to do much with yet, but I am gearing up!

Posted by Lizarie on Nov 21, 2011 at 10:45pm

I have very curly hair myself and I really like the book Curly Girl. It has great tips.

Posted by nenglish on Nov 27, 2011 at 1:02am

@Nenglish: How did I not list that?!?!  It was my first guide to curly hair care, and its information is what I credit with my curl health.  The products it calls for may not work well on black or biracial curls, as detailed in “Curly Like Me” sometimes they can cause texture issues, but the regimen tips are great for everyone and it’s a very simple program to get started on!

Posted by Thalas'shaya on Nov 27, 2011 at 2:19pm

I also love

Posted by JAnthony on Dec 09, 2011 at 4:57am

Thalas’shaya, is “Curly Like Me” a book? I would be interested in reading up on product/texture issue information. I have a list of products I really like on my son’s hair, but as his curls are maturing I’m wondering if other unknown products might not work better. His hair doesn’t quite fit any of the ‘types’ outlined on….his is a very tight dense curl (individual hairs loose from his head look like little tiny o’s about the size of a coffee stirrer or even toothpick). Not an ‘s’ curl, but definitely not a ‘z’ curl.

Posted by Felicia on Dec 10, 2011 at 12:29pm

Thalashaya- I agree that Curly Girl products may not work on all types of culs but i loved the messages of self acceptance.  It is very rare to see women with curly hair actually wear it curly.  I love my curls and always wear it curly but even i hear at work sometimes how my hair would be so pretty if I straighten it. 

Here are some tricks of curly hair that I do on my own: 

Do not wash it everyday. 
Always use deep moisturizing conditioner when washing.  Curly hair absorbs conditioner like no other hair. 
Use leave in conditioner to comb hair.
Use a cream or lotion to style not mouse; it creates a crunchy texture. 
Top the top layer with some gel like type for frizzies. 
Buy the teethed comb like headband that they sell at walgreens. They come three to a pack and are great when I dont want to deal with my hair. I just add the products and then put the comb in. 

Finally, the golden rule “do not touch the hair once it has been styled”.  I dont let my husband touch my hair until it has dried. 

Curly hair girls always do think about their hair. Do I jump in the pool? Do I work out today?  When the weather gets humid; we think about our hair instinctively.  But it is possible to grow to love your curls and hopefully your daughters can too. 
I have tried almost every product line so if anyone has a question; feel free to ask.

Posted by nenglish on Dec 12, 2011 at 10:48am

Hey, Felicia, “Curly Like Me” is a book, but there is a website that augments and updates the information in the book.  The “ingredients glossary” that I mentioned is on the website, along with current lists of conditioners that pass muster for the author’s purposes.  The book is here:,descCd-buy.html  and the page includes links that let you buy the book from one of many sources.  The website that goes along with it is

Your description of the curl being “o” shaped sounds like you’re looking at the curl from the end of the hair, looking toward the head.  As I understand it, the “s” and “z” designations refer to looking at the hair from the side while putting mild tension on it.  Obviously, you don’t want to pull it out completely straight, but you don’t want to let it be as curled as it would be naturally.  It’s like you’re stretching a slinky, but not so far that it can’t go back to its resting shape.  All that said, since it’s making “o” curves instead of zig-zags, and with the diameter you mention, I’d call it 4a hair as an educated guess.

nenglish: 100% I agree with you on the self-acceptance message in Curly Girl!  Long, straight, yellow hair is NOT the end-all-be-all of beauty.  It’s just one of many ways for hair to be “good.”

Posted by Thalas'shaya on Dec 12, 2011 at 1:06pm

That makes sense, Thalas’shaya. I was not aware that the strand was to be stretched (slightly) to determine pattern…..but clearly an ‘o’ would stretch out to an ‘s’. I was also thinking 3c or 4a just based on the verbal description I have read elsewhere. Thanks for the link!

Posted by Felicia on Dec 16, 2011 at 12:24am

I LOVE this blog and her youtube channel!

Posted by savinggrace on Feb 15, 2012 at 3:54am

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