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Going a bit crazy waiting!
A little background:
In 2010 we were lucky enough to adopt a 3mo old, we were working with an agency on newborn adoption and we did finally! We waited 1.5 yrs to be matched.
We found out on Jan 30th, 2012 that she had a little girl exactly 12 months to the day from our son, yes they have the same birthday and the little girl was taken from her at 2months old. Little sister lives in another state, same birth mother but different birth father. I started calling the state because I wanted to see about setting up for them to know each other. The sister is in foster care and has been since she was two months old, she is 1 yr old in May. We were told that we could definitely be an adoptive resource but the down side was is that the foster parents want her too, which I can totally understand.
We are now going through the process and will be state approved foster parents in the next week or two and then our papers will be sent to the other state, ICPC process and they decide whether little sister can come grow up with her brother or if the foster parents get to keep her. By the way another baby is due any day, yes same birth mother got pregnant again and planning on parenting but if history plays out the same way that may not work.
So, here I am waiting to see if we get little sister and also feeling terrible for hurting the foster parents. Shouldn’t the sibling have the opportunity to grow up together? He will be two in May and she will be one and they will have the opportunity to grow up together and be close so they will have so much in common and very possibly with the 3rd sibling as well. We will willing have the 3rd placed with us if history repeats itself and the birth mother is back in our state so they would place the 3rd one in foster care with us since we hopefully will have the other two.
Any thoughts, I feel terrible but I want the best for the children and I feel being together is best.
Thank you for reading my long first post.
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