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Foster-Adoption and Government Assistance - NC


Hello!

I am planning on applying to adopt through foster in the next few weeks through the Children’s Home Society of NC (CHS). I know that on the Forsyth County DSS website, it says one is not eligible to foster or adopt if receiving Emergency Assistance.  Is this the same as receiving food stamps?  I make very little money and food stamps would help, but I only want to apply for food stamps if it won’t disqualify me to adopt.  I am afraid to ask CHS for fear of disqualifying myself.

Thank you!

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Hello, in California prospective adoptive parents need to prove they have enough financial stability to support a child.  They need employment history, etc. when they do the home study.  I’m pretty sure that would be the same policy in other states.  I wish you the best of luck in your adoption quest.

Posted by VintageMom on Feb 05, 2018 at 6:53am

We are in NC (Wake County) and had to submit a budget sheet that showed we can provide for ourselves without assistance, and if adopting could provide for a child with out the stipend. We filled it out ourselves, so we didn’t have to actually show paychecks or bills or anything, just our income had to be more than our expenses. Its one of the things they do to try to ensure that people are not ‘fostering for the money’

I’d ask, you could just ask for clarification on what they mean by ‘Emergency Assistance’ - they wont’ disqualify you for asking - but I don’t believe you can receive food stamps and still foster/adopt.

Posted by toinfinityandbiond on Feb 05, 2018 at 3:01pm

Hi Aamph1,

I had the same situation as Vintage Mom. In Missouri, where I adopted from foster care, I had to provide proof of income. Had I not made enough to show that I could support my child, I anticipate that the adoption wouldn’t have gone through. Signing up for any form of government support (i.e., food stamps) wouldn’t likely work in your favor on this.

To me, there’s a more important question, however. If you can barely support yourself and are needing help, why would you think you can take on the extra financial burden of a child? While there is some monthly support and Medicaid, raising a kid isn’t an inexpensive proposition.

I’m not trying to be harsh, suggest that only certain kinds of people should be able to adopt, or that you don’t have lots of love to give a child. That said, being a parent means thinking about more than what you want—it’s about doing what is in the best interest of the child. Maybe the way to handle this is to remain as a foster parent or move to legal guardian until you’re in a better financial situation.

Sorry to be so negative.

Posted by lachicuela on Feb 05, 2018 at 3:05pm

I am a FFY (former foster youth) who allowed myself to be adopted as a teen.
I don’t understand why you would want to adopt a child from foster care if you are not sure that you can even provide food for that child.
Many foster children are taken away from their parents because they are considered neglected because they aren’t properly (in the governments eyes) fed, clothed, taken to the doctor, and so on.
So to me to give that child to be adopted by someone who isn’t even sure they can afford to feed them is just very confusing.
As a foster youth it is already hard to live with whatever it was you had to live with, then lose your family, then get new “parents” that you don’t even know, and then still never be like the other kids—not dressed like them, can’t join sports or learn an instrument or go on trips, get made fun of because you have bad teeth or can’t hear what somebody said, or you’re the one who has to stand in line for the free lunch, and then you’re always supposed to look happy and be grateful because at least it isn’t worse.
So to me I really hope that CPS isn’t giving children like I was to people who aren’t even sure they can afford to have food in the house.
If that makes me sound ungrateful, guess I am.

Posted by NoraT on Apr 03, 2018 at 11:01pm

I have known of families who received food stamps and still adopting. I think they look at your circumstances. If you make 25,000 with no debt you might be accepted if you make 300,000 and owe 1 million maybe not.

I guess the best would be to ask the agency.

Posted by Regina on Apr 04, 2018 at 12:21am

I have known of families who received food stamps and still adopting. I think they look at your circumstances. If you make 25,000 with no debt you might be accepted if you make 300,000 and owe 1 million maybe not.

I guess the best would be to ask the agency.

Posted by Regina on Apr 04, 2018 at 12:22am

or maybe ask the children who have lived this how we feel.

Posted by NoraT on Apr 04, 2018 at 1:40am

if they are old enough. It depends on the family some families share economic issues with their children some do not. And the child could be too young to understand like a pre-schooler

Posted by Regina on Apr 04, 2018 at 2:59am

I wish it would be about the foster children and not what the foster families could get or what the agency could get for them.

Posted by NoraT on Apr 04, 2018 at 5:28am

I wish it would be about the foster children and not what the foster families could get or what the agency could get for them.

Posted by NoraT on Apr 04, 2018 at 5:28am

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