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My husband and I have been married for 5 years. I did intend to take his last name, but then sort of delayed due to being older, having a career, it being my “professional name”, and thought, “well, I’ll change when we have children”. So, not YET!
I spoke with someone whose mother had a different last name, and who expressed having feelings of unbelonging and finding the need to explain that she was indeed her Mom was difficult for her (and she wasn’t even adopted!!). This conversation was a few years ago but really stuck with me. It is so common these days for couples to keep their previous last names.
I feel like with adoption it is probably even more important for us all to share a family name. And our-particular-last-names-hyphenated would be cumbersome.
I’m also wondering if others have ever incorporated the CHILD’s surname (birth mother’s? birth father’s?) into ALL of their adopted-family names?
Thanks in advance!
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