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Experiences with Adopting 5-6 year old

I am in the beginning process of foster to adopt and am considering a 5-6 year old.  I’d like to hear from other parents about adopting from this age group, and how the child adjusted over time.  I see a lot of horror stories online but know there are good ones out there too - please share good and bad!


Remember children often regress when moved so if the child wants to play baby, wets the bed etc do not be surprised. Go for it.

Do not expect them to developmentally be like their peers.

The child may be scared or sad. She/ he may be missing birth family, foster family, or siblings. Concentrate on nurture fun and attachment. You may have to leave some things go for awile.

It is not the age it is what happened in those first 5 years. Physical abuse? prenatal exposure to drugs and/or alcohol, sexual abuse, neglect, multiple moves?? They all enter into issues which might arise.

Best of luck

Posted by Regina on Aug 07, 2019 at 1:31am

Thank you Regina.

Posted by AmyK on Aug 07, 2019 at 11:41am

I adopted my daughter from foster care. She was 4 and a half when she came home. She had some anxiety and had a lot of nightmares when she first came home, but overall adjusted surprisingly easily. She is an easy kid, sweet and happy. I loved that age and would happily adopt in that age group again if i had the chance. She is 10 now and continues to do well.

Posted by rn4kidz on Aug 07, 2019 at 12:35pm

I’m happy to hear that, thank you for sharing m4kidz.

Posted by AmyK on Aug 07, 2019 at 11:11pm

I just recently began the adoption of a 6 year old. It has been difficult.

Posted by arne on Aug 16, 2019 at 2:19pm

What is difficult? Can we help?

Posted by Regina on Aug 17, 2019 at 1:49pm

What are you expecting and what “horror stories” scare you?

Posted by NoraT on Aug 19, 2019 at 3:03am

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