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Both birth parents completely unknown
I’m curious if anyone else out there is in my boat: my daughter was literally pulled out of a ditch in Africa the day (we assume, anyway) she was born, and we adopted her at 3mos.
This yields a situation whereby even after a thorough police investigation, she officially “has no known biological family”, neither to our knowledge nor the social worker/government/her country of origin/etc. As she is not from a developed country with investigators and detectives and the like, it is most likely that (unlike in America where many “BPs unknown” cases involve a closed file that may someday be unlocked) she will never get any information on her Biological family. Ever. Obviously (and maybe it’s “wrong” to say this, but) I am okay with the missing pieces. But, it’s not about me, and I have to wonder if she will be okay with them. Particularly the part about being truly left for dead - not just handed over to an agency but…. well, the WORST. How can a mother & father who love their child SO MUCH (I’m referring to myself & husband, now) ever “properly” and “gently” deliver such devastating information to the love of their life without physically collapsing from a broken heart for them?
She is 3 years old now, and I know “the conversation(s)” are just around the corner, and I feel like I could really benefit from some insight from adoptees (or anyone else) who not only do not have any BP information, but perhaps are in a situation where there IS NO information. The discussion on “unknown father” seems to be quite heavy on the “SOME information unknown” side…
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