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Hi y’all,
I am looking for some guidance, some advice, some thoughts, your two cents, or some cheering on…
Here’s the deal:
We adopted our first daughter in 2011- open adoption- she was the 4th born daughter to the birthparents (same birthmother and birthfather for all).  The birthparents had custody, at the time, of the other 3 daughters (the oldest ones).
Then birthmother got pregnant again in 2012.  We were screwed around with by an agency and ended up not being able to adopt this sister.  We are now in contact with her wonderful adoptive family through FB. For that, I am very grateful.
WAIT FOR IT…The next year (2013), birthmother gets pregnant AGAIN.  This time, we are able to adopt this birthsister.  Birthmother got her tubes tied after baby girl #6!
Fast forward to present day- Both birthparents- still together after 6 daughters (3 placed for adoption) are addicts and homeless and had the oldest 3 daughters taken away and placed in foster care. Although we remain in touch with the birthparents (I use that term loosely as I know what city they are in and they have our phone number and we are friends on FB so they can see pictures), we have lost all contact with the 3 oldest sisters (ages 11, 12, 13)
Their foster mother adopted the 3 other girls. From my own sleuthing and process of elimination, I believe I know what school the girls attend.  As a matter of fact, the adoptive/foster mom is a teacher there.

HERE’S MY QUESTION:  Would it be creepy to write a letter to their school counselor, not asking for information but just giving our information so that she may pass it on to the adoptive mom of the 3 oldest?

Should I call their former case worker that we knew USED to work for Texas DCFS and see if she could pass on our information to the adoptive mom?

I’m not looking FOR information.  I am a teacher myself and I know the rules of strict confidentiality.  I would just love for all of the sisters (who look like stairsteps by the way, all beautiful) to be in contact one day should they choose.  Time is of the essence.

I appreciate your taking the time to read this post- it has been weighing heavily on my heart.


I would start by contacting the agency that placed them asking if they can contact the other family to see if they want to exchange pictures, visit etc.

That keeps the other people at school out of their business (especially since she teaches there.)

if the agency won’t can’t help You could write her care of the school with your info then leave it. No harassing.

Posted by Regina on Jan 14, 2019 at 1:34pm

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