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Article about couple choosing adoption first


Here is a story you may appreciate.  It’s titled, Couple Gave Up Having Their Own Children to Adopt a Family This Christmas
It profiles a couple who chose to adopt two young children who were needing a home.  They speak honestly why they chose to create their family this way, how others reacted to their decision and how they prepared for two children.
Is this story similar to yours?

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First comment without even reading the article…the title…ugh! Gave up having their “own” children? So whose children are they if not theirs? I am so sick of *anyone* that uses that phrase - it makes me not want to read the article as I already know the “approach/perspective”.

Posted by LizLee on Dec 20, 2013 at 3:01am

I think the couple have their hearts in the right place, but I feel like this article does not, and it makes it very hard to read.  The title sets the rest of the story very clearly.

The writer is very much saying “Look at these amazing, selfless people, who rescued a child and made the ULTIMATE SACRIFICE by not having their own biological children”

Posted by toinfinityandbiond on Dec 20, 2013 at 3:30am

I agree that the title is horrible.

Posted by Danielle Pennel on Dec 20, 2013 at 5:21am

Read the article and the title did give it away - at least the writer’s perspective. I have a great deal of trouble comprehending the “I did a lot of crying” and “grieving for the babies I probably wouldn’t have” but that’s because I came into adoption from a different perspective and “having my OWN child” (cringe) was never a thought since I have a child, my son.

But the tone of the article is pretty clear…the children have been saved while protecting their identity. I am not familiar with this website so not really sure what the point of the article is/was but I’m sure a lot of people feel warm and fuzzy just in time for Christmas.

Posted by LizLee on Dec 20, 2013 at 6:15am

I finally had the chance to read the article. It’s hard to tell how much of the “saving” rhetoric comes from the adoptive parents and how much comes from the writer, or was encouraged by the writer. The article is really terrible, and I hope, for the children’s sake, that the APs aren’t really the saviors they’re portrayed as there.

That said, this is nothing like our story. I never wanted to have biological children. Turns out, having biological children isn’t a good idea for me anyway, so, yay, I guess. This article perpetuates the idea that people who *can* have bio kids should adopt from foster care, or should adopt special needs kids, as opposed to adopting “healthy” children or babies. Adoption - whether domestic infant adoption, foster/adoption, international adoption, kinship adoption, etc. - is just as valid a way of building a family as having bio kids.

Posted by rredhead on Dec 25, 2013 at 11:35am

We adopted and had bio kids and people are so darn rude and assume we adopted then got pregnant, and say “how lucky you got pregnant” like my adopted kid is some kind of consultation prize. 
And “I hear that happens all the time”.  Why do people think its okay to ask about my husbands and my ability to conceive?!?

Posted by Lotsofkidslotsofways on Jan 18, 2014 at 2:53am

We adopted and had bio kids and people are so darn rude and assume we adopted then got pregnant, and say “how lucky you got pregnant” like my adopted kid is some kind of consultation prize. 
And “I hear that happens all the time”.  Why do people think its okay to ask about my husbands and my ability to conceive?!?

Posted by Lotsofkidslotsofways on Jan 18, 2014 at 3:03am

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