We have a facilitator and it was somewhat normal. They basically said “don’t call us we’ll call you” and said they intentionally do not tell of evey situation that may fit you or when someone is only slightly interested. This being to not get our hopes up. We have only been asked to replenish profiles once in 3 years. We are marched now and hopefully getting out baby next Wednesday. Funny this is we paid all this money to them and we found our birth mom on our own via Facebook friend of a friend and the facilitator is no longer in the picture at all because according to VA law it has to be a private adoption (conveniently we were never told our faciliator wouldn’t be able to handle everything.) all of these places can claim they are in the best interest of you or a birth mom… They are in the best interest for your money. :( I suggest doing your own marketing and advertising.,, you just never know where your baby is and waiting for YOU to find them, not your agency or faciliator. Best of luck…. Normal is also 2-4 years in waiting ad well.

Did that one on my iPhone… Can ya tell??? not usually that poor of a speller!

We are working with an attorney and I find the same thing to be true, unless they have something new to tell you you don’t hear from them.  Actually I have had to be almost obnoxious to get in touch sometimes when we had potential situations we had found on our own I needed them to check out.  We are going on having sent out about 10-12 profiles, we had one woman select us however she neglected to mention very important medical details about herself and her prematurely born child.  Its very frustrating and yes i know we all say be patient, it will happen when its meant to, etc.  But it is easy to be impatient and want answers especially with the money these people are getting to help us.

We worked with two agencies and they had two different views on that. The first one wouldn’t contact us at all unless we were matched. They were a small agency though so I always wondered whether they even had any emoms at all. Our second agency emailed us about every situation, and we had to reply if we were interested. We got at least 1-2 emails a month, but then every time we didn’t get a call back stating that we had been matched, I would get discouraged. In the end we did get matched with the 2nd agency and now have a wonderful little boy! Pros and cons to both views.

Thanks, everyone!  I didn’t think this posted, as we were having glitches with our computer last night.  It’s helpful to hear of the different experiences you’ve had.