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Adopting out of birth order

I’m curious about people’s experiences adopting out of birth order. We have one beautiful little girl, almost 3.5, whom joined our family at 14.5 months. We had had planned on adopting again but had thought we would maintain birth order and have DD become a big sister. Today we were contacted by DD’s case worker to see if we’d consider adopting a 5 year old girl. It wasn’t the original plan but we are open to it, I’m just wondering what, if any, issues it could cause for our daughter. I know this sounds silly, but things like sharing. Like all the large gifts she received from Santa, grandparents etc, things like a play kitchen, trampoline, TeePee etc, the type of thing we wouldn’t get another and have one for each child. I feel like it would be different when a baby or younger one came along than an older sibling who you suddenly have to share all your possessions with. And how might it effect the 5 year old as well. Any insight appreciated!


What is the 5 year old like? What has she experienced before and in foster care? What are her behaviors? She may be emotionally much younger. I think you need loads more information before you make a decision.Is she in school? etc etc

Posted by Regina on Aug 23, 2017 at 1:19pm

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