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Abby's One True Gift


I’m currently with an agency in Minnesota.  It’s been a year today.  The agency spends a lot of time on the birth mother and has a failure rate of < 5%.  I like that they offer counseling to the birth mother 24/7 for as many years as she’d like.  I like that the total cost is most likely to be under $20k.  However, time.  Abby’s One True Gift is telling me their rate of failure is 30% and I’d be out $6 - $7k.  Wondering if anyone has had experience with Abby’s and if these statistics are normal.  Thanks for all the help!!

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You should read and do some investigation http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/chi-ap-ia-adoptionagency-co,0,7999062.story

Posted by Jeanne T. Tate on Jun 25, 2011 at 2:18am

I looked into that agency, too, and was not happy with the notion of having such a high chance of losing so much money. Since they have such a high chance of it falling through we worried that we could have 3 matches fall through and our budget would be almost gone- other agencies often reapply the money to the next match until you get one and some don’t require money until you have a match…I would suggest getting in writing what would happen to that money- does it apply to the next match or is it forfeit? We dealt with Heart to Heart in Utah and loved them and got a fast match!

Posted by mel123 on Jun 25, 2011 at 3:09am

Gosh, for some reason, I can’t find any of the articles regarding that agency.  I can’t even find the ones that I commented on, and I have the link to them.  In any case, I agree with Jeanne T, read and investigate.  Or contact the Iowa Attorney General’s office.  Here’s a report that refers to the report I was trying to find:

http://reformtalk.blogspot.com/2011/05/iowa-targets-abbys-one-true-gift-inc.html

Posted by Jeanne on Jun 25, 2011 at 4:32am

Be careful, we looked into using them this spring, even drove down (from Hudson, WI) to meet with them.  We did not sign with them and a couple of months later we received a letter, from the wife who started the agency with her husband, and it stated the were being investigated and could loose their license.  It even had the response from their lawyer to the newspaper.  I just searched Des Moines Register archives and found an article dated May 18th, 2011 stating the Iowa Dept of Human Services revoked their license.  Please investigate and be careful.

Amy B.

Posted by Mom7232 on Jun 25, 2011 at 4:39am

After we were cleared for ICPC the agency we worked with in Nevada mentioned that Abby’s lost their license but was going to appeal.  They only mentioned it after I said I had been considering Abby’s but, on a gut feeling, didn’t go with them.  Just do your research and go with your gut.  The agency we used also got some bad reviews but we didn’t have any problem with them at all.  They were awesome.  Reviews have to be taken with a grain of salt but info from legal and state sources can really point you in the right direction.

Posted by Tressi on Jun 25, 2011 at 6:13am

Please don’t use them, they tried to steal our daughter. We have her she is 2 months old.  Long story our Birthmother became pregnant again on my son’s 1st B-day she was 8 wks.  We were matched since then.  Our Birthmother needed more expenses & heard about Abby’s “& contacted them,  They offered her cash on the spot while we were still matched & in her 7th month.  They matched her with another couple, that poor couple not having any idea who we were & having her full bio sibling.  I prayed like crazy & 2 days b4 the couple flew to Texas to meet them, she came back to us.(feel so bad for the couple)  Bottom line is they tried to steal our daughter & matched her, gave her money, while we were still working with her.  Highly unethical & state of Iowa;s attorney general has many pending cases & they are under review to having their license taking away!   

Please stay away everyone

Posted by Dallasali on Jun 26, 2011 at 4:31am

sorry continued from above

Our agency advised us to back away, so we did.  I just couldn’t stand by & let her go to another family & sold to the highest bidder.  I had bo idea who she was working with at the time, but she admitted she was getting money from another agency.  So since it is illegal to work 2 agencies, she chose the money one.  I wrote her a letter & poured my heart out & she came back 3 wks b4 delivery.  I stayed in the hospital with her & she admitted everything.  Told me the agency, how she almost met the other couple & how they ,Abby’s, threatned her for going back to us & were going to have the other potential AP’s press charges???  I felt like such a victim as we had paid many BM expenses our state would allow, & to think this agency didn’t give us or our son a second thought on keeping the siblings together.  Makes my stomach sick, she asked them if they would work with us & they lied & said it would be illegal…They were going to make money off of her.  Also wouldn’t let her pick a family out!  Please do your research & I thank God everyday we have her & didn’t lose her.

Ali

Posted by Dallasali on Jun 26, 2011 at 4:51am

I used Abby’s and was matched in August of 2011 and our baby girl was born 12.12.11. Our experience w/ Abby’s was a good one!

Aside from a few mis-communications it went well and sometimes I think those communitcation issues were from me being so worried and stressed that something would go wrong.

Abby’s did everything they said they would from the get go and were always responsive. You’ll find the agency that is right for you and when you do you’ll know… My gut said Abby’s and that’‘s what I went with. Trust me when I tell you that I RESEARCHED and spoke to numerous people before we decided on Abby’s I spend HOURS and HOURS of investigating but something told me them… Good Luck!

Posted by CJS on Feb 23, 2012 at 9:50pm

We almost went with Abby’s but researched and found so much negative press… more then any other agency. I spoke to the head of the agency and she confirmed the negative stories and told me they were “working on it”. This is too big of a decision and life experience to be involved with an agency that is “working on it!”

Posted by jennalea401 on Feb 24, 2012 at 12:24am

I wish we would have done more research. We had 2 failed adoptions with Abby’s and lost thousands of dollars. The level of research they did on both birth mothers was pathetic, their accounting system is a joke, the counselors were condescending whenever we expressed concerns ... I do not wish what we went through on anyone. Avoid Abby’s at all costs. I hope they have lost their license.

Posted by MPT on Aug 16, 2012 at 9:50pm

We used Abby’s during 2010 and were very pleased.  They did everything they said they would.  I felt the need to post in gratitude for the beautiful baby girl we adopted through them.

Posted by father on Feb 06, 2013 at 6:52pm

Thank you all for posting these reviews. My husband and I were looking into Abby’s, but we are taking the above as enough caution to back away. Back to the drawing board smile

Posted by Ready2AdoptNow on Jan 20, 2014 at 7:51pm

We have had a very similar experience to one of the posters here - in fact we are kind of in the middle of it - I’m about to send that member a message actually.

Posted by inajam on Mar 29, 2014 at 3:15pm

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