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A Public Failed Adoption of Older Children
Not long ago, the author Joyce Maynard, publicly announced on her blog that her adoption had failed.
Her adoption journey started when she was a single, 55 year-old mother to three grown children. She said she always had the desire to adopt. She eventually adopted two sisters, ages 6 and 11, from Ethiopia.
She did not go into detail what happened during the 14 months the girls were in her home. She just says it wasn’t working out, despite how much she loved the girls.
A year ago, she placed the girls in a two-parent home which had other young children. Maynard knows that the girls are happy and transitioning well.
In her blog, she knows that people will judge her for her actions. Some of her friends and family are appalled by her decisions.
An author from the New York Times, wrote about Maynard’s decision to end the adoption.
The article stated that, according to experts, as many as 1 in 5 adoptions of children over the age of 6 end in disruption, for complex reasons. The author continued to say how it would be easy to judge Maynard for not choosing to continue to parent these girls. However, anyone close to adoption will fully understand how difficult and complicated adopting an older child truly is.
What are your thoughts on Maynard’s public blog announcement of the failure of her adoption?
Do you think it’s fair/right for people to have opinions on her situation?
Was the NYT article successful in educating those not familiar with adoption as to why Maynard made the decisions she did?
Do you know of someone who faced something similar to this adoption? How did it end?
Is this a fear in the back of your mind when you choose to adopt an older child?
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