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Help! My adoption attorney of 5 years, since 2007 retired. (Hubby passed away, I took 2 years off from adoption). His 2 children took over the practice. I had a disagreement about advertising with one of them. In early July 2012 we went our separate ways. An EP contacted me in late July. I offered to hire an attorney for just her. At first she said yes and now she says no. She now just wants the 2 of us to sit down with an attorney to make an adoption plan super pronto.
As I posted before, one attorney EP talked to, declined to represent her, but said they would have an initial consultation with me. They canceled and rescheduled the consultation 3 times. Finally their paralegal called and told me the attorney just didn’t have time. This happened over the course of 3 weeks. EP is livid! EP is due Sept. 28 or sooner and she feels she should have an adoption plan in place. There is no consoling her. She placed a child before 22 years ago in a closed agency adoption “and she knows how an adoption is supposed to go.” Since this is my first adoption, I can’t tell her anything. She is afraid I don’t have my papers in order (home study, background check,etc.), because every attorney that I have called is either too busy, or they don’t do non relative adoptions, or they don’t have contacts in the city EP lives, or they are just moving too slowly for EP. I can’t support EP properly, because I am having trouble finding an attorney to handle the financial side. I have missed helping my EP with utilities, which I’m not sure my state approves, and I did not want to pay without OK from an attorney. I have made no cash payments to EP, waiting until I can hire an attorney. Then, the same thing
happened with a 2nd attorney that I contacted as the first. They strung us out for weeks, taking our names, and promising to contact Bethany (whom EP contacted), making conflict checks, etc and then said they were too busy. As I posted before, Bethany helped this EP. How much, she is not too honest about. I suspect they assisted her in getting signed up for Medicaid and Food Stamps, although she is not really admitting this. EP was living with her pregnant daughter in low income housing, but had to move so daughter would not get into trouble. Bethany moved her to a motel. Attorney told me if EP placed with me, I would have to pay Bethany back for EP motel housing, (which I am more than happy to do). then attorney said he does not have time to do my adoption. Yesterday EP calls me and said since she is on probation (public intoxication-repeated offenses), she had to tell her Supervisor about the move from her daughter’s house to motel. .So any attorney I hire would have to know how to work with both Bethany and EP Probation Officer. Which means I have to hire someone with experience, which is harder and probably more expensive. Which is OK, if only someone would come forward! Both Supervisor and Bethany are pressuring EP, she says, to choose Bethany AP, not me, as Bethany has done more than I have for EP.(because I was waiting on attorney). When I met EP, she was already on Medicaid and Food Stamps. When attorney plans didn’t happened as fast as EP wanted, she now feels pressure from her probation supervisor to just choose Bethany AP. EP has now definitely given me an ultimatum. EP has given me to the end of this week, Friday, for the 2 of us to sit down with an attorney. If this does not happened, EP says she is going to feel obligated to choose Bethany AP. She is so upset, that I’m afraid she may turn at any time. I feel like crying.
I have called, emailed and/or researched dozens of family law attorneys. 2 are too busy; 2 do only step parent adoptions; 1 attorney, a friend had 2 adoption fall throughs, which never materialized in the end, and I declined to contact’, I have scheduled appointments for consultations with 2 attorneys this week-which I pray materialize; 1 attorney declined because he would have to travel 1 hour to EP city and plus did not have any contacts at her hospital; I am waiting on return calls from about 5 attorneys; the remaining family law attorneys that I contacted either live too far away or don’t do non relative adoptions, or even adoptions at all.
I’m saying all this to say, IS ANY ONE ELSE HAVING THIS MUCH TROUBLE HIRING AN ATTORNEY?
Help ! EP is turning. Note: Whatever’s best for the child..
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