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  • jwol5
    Eleven-year old daughter - refuses meds and counseling

    Our 11-year old daughter (adopted from China at age 11 months) says she hates herself and she hates her adoptive mother.  We took her to an attachment experienced therapist and…

  • jsjordan
    Please Help. Adoption Research.

    Hello, My name is Jason Jordan and I am an adoptive parent, counselor, and doctoral student and I need your help.  As an adoptive parent and counselor, I understand the…

  • Frank Ligtvoet
    Heather Schulz runs Tween Support Group in NY

    ALL TOGETHER NOW (ATN) FALL 2015 Tweens Peer Support Group Registration is Now Open ATN ” now in its seventh year ” is a non-profit group that offers a range of adoptee-focused programming for ages 4 through adult. Tweens Peer Support Group ATN’s peer-support group for 10-12 year-olds embraces issues, as they come up, in a fun and nurturing environment. The group is facilitated by an adult adoptee, and offers tweens the opportunity to connect and chat about “what is really cool ” and may not be so cool ” about being adopted.” The goals of each group session are: (1) to create a safe and open space for tweens to share their joys and pains, as they relate to successfully navigating the burden and dignity of difference; (2) to address a myriad of “hard situations” that arise where we live, learn, and play; and (3) most importantly, to have fun in the process of finding the living and breathing answers to: “Who am I?  Who are we?”  The group will be facilitated by Heather Schultz, a Korean-American journalist based in Long Island, whose articles have been published in The New York Times, NBC News, New York Daily News, and the St. Louis-Post Dispatch, among other publications.  As an avid spoken word lover, she has performed long-form poems in New York City based on her upcoming memoir about her experiences as an adoptee and domestic violence survivor in suburban Long Island.  Heather is on the Board of Directors of Also-Known-As. Five Sunday Sessions:  2:00-3:30 PM September 20, October 18, October 25, November 15, December 13 Union Temple Preschool 17 Eastern Parkway, 4th floor Brooklyn, NY 11238 Fees The fee per semester is $250 per child and goes directly to our operating costs, to pay for the space rental or for adoptee volunteer and facilitator stipends. The parents group is free for families that are registered for the tweens groups.  For more information and to register, please visit our website: http://www.alltogetheradoption.org. Who We Are ATN is a not-for-profit, adoptee-centered support group for adopted children and their families. We believe that adoption comes with unique developmental processes for adoptive families and that they differ from biological families for that reason. We particularly value the perspective of adult adoptees, seek their input, and support their concerns as an integral part of our program. We strive to create a community in which adopted children, teens and adults can determine their own experience and form supportive friendships among themselves. As parents, we try to understand and integrate the birth cultures of our children into our families’ lives. We recognize the role race plays in this context and especially how it affects the lives of families with children of color. We work to help prepare those kids for the particular challenges of being adopted persons of color. We acknowledge the birth family as a living reality in the adoptive family. We are also attuned to the losses experienced in adoption, especially those of our children and birth families, and treat them respectfully. Finally, we celebrate the diversity of adoptive families and the lifelong, nurturing, loving, unconditional and irrevocable bonds they form. ATN groups offer support to children and parents.  ATN is not a therapy provider.  For more information and to register, please visit our website: http://www.alltogetheradoption.org.       ATN Board Kacy Ames-Heron           Carol Lutfy             Amy Appelbaum           Marissa Martin             Andrea Compton           Margaret Scott April Dinwoodie           Laura Summerhill             Jamie Levinson             Fran Weinstock           Frank Ligtvoet                                       https://www.facebook.com/pages/All-Together-Now/729057370439459 Please like us on Facebook!

  • Frank Ligtvoet
    Tween peer support group in NY Fall 2015. Sign up now!

    ALL TOGETHER NOW (ATN) FALL 2015 REGISTRATION IS OPEN at http://www.alltogetheradoption.org Adoption Playgroups for 4-6; 7-9 Year-Olds Tweens Peer-Support Group Teen Mentor Program Parent Discussion Group Five Sunday Sessions:  2:00-3:30 PM September 20, October 18, October 25, November 15, December 13 Union Temple Preschool 17 Eastern Parkway, 4th floor Brooklyn, NY 11238 ATN ” now in its seventh year ” is a non-profit group that offers a range of adoptee-focused programming for ages 4 through adult. Support Groups for Preschool and Elementary School Children: Fun, multiracial playgroups, facilitated by adult and teen adoptees for adopted kids from a wide spectrum of backgrounds. A committee of resourceful and dedicated adult adoptees, adoptive parents, and teen adoptee volunteers organize the playgroups and their activities. 4-6 year-olds; 7-9 year-olds: Free and group play that incorporates adoption- and identity-related activities and themes. Themes around identity, family and friends will be explored.  Activities have included Family Day, an outing to Prospect Park; puzzle and quilt making; and performances from special guests.  The groups provide a “safe space” for kids to build relationships within the adoptive community. For Tweens:  A peer-support group for 10-12 year-olds that embraces issues, as they come up, in a fun and nurturing environment. The group is facilitated by an adult adoptee, and offers tweens the opportunity to connect and chat about “what is really cool ” and may not be so cool ” about being adopted.” The goals of each group session are: (1) to create a safe and open space for tweens to share their joys and pains, as they relate to successfully navigating the burden and dignity of difference; (2) to address a myriad of “hard situations” that arise where we live, learn, and play; and (3) most importantly, to have fun in the process of finding the living and breathing answers to: “Who am I?  Who are we?”  For Teens: The Teen Mentor Program creates opportunities for 13-18 year-olds to facilitate peer supportive playgroups for adopted children, ages 4-9 years, while acting as role models in adoptee-focused activities. Our adult adoptee team, in turn, provides supervision and mentorship to the teens to foster growth, development, and exploration.  Carfare and community service credit are available for teen mentors. For Parents: ATN provides a space for adoptive parents to gather, connect, share resources and discuss adoption-related issues.  All sessions are led by an adult adoptee liaison.  For parents of 4-9 year olds and tweens, this group is free of charge.  Parents of teen mentors are charged a fee.  Registration is also open to non-ATN parents on a space-available basis.  Fees The fee per semester for the children’s and tweens groups is $250 per child and goes directly to our operating costs, to pay for the space rental or for adoptee volunteer and facilitator stipends. The parents group is free for families that are registered for the children’s and tweens groups.  The Parents Group fee for parents of teens mentors and non-ATN parents is $150 per semester. Who We Are ATN is a not-for-profit, adoptee-centered support group for adopted children and their families. We believe that adoption comes with unique developmental processes for adoptive families and that they differ from biological families for that reason. We particularly value the perspective of adult adoptees, seek their input, and support their concerns as an integral part of our program. We strive to create a community in which adopted children, teens and adults can determine their own experience and form supportive friendships among themselves. As parents, we try to understand and integrate the birth cultures of our children into our families’ lives. We recognize the role race plays in this context and especially how it affects the lives of families with children of color. We work to help prepare those kids for the particular challenges of being adopted persons of color. We acknowledge the birth family as a living reality in the adoptive family. We are also attuned to the losses experienced in adoption, especially those of our children and birth families, and treat them respectfully. Finally, we celebrate the diversity of adoptive families and the lifelong, nurturing, loving, unconditional and irrevocable bonds they form. ATN groups offer support to children and parents.  ATN is not a therapy provider. For more information and to register, please visit our website: http://www.alltogetheradoption.org.                 ATN Board Kacy Ames-Heron                                                   Amy Appelbaum                                                             Andrea Compton April Dinwoodie                             Jamie Levinson                                                                       Frank Ligtvoet       Carol Lutfy Marissa Martin       Margaret Scott Laura Summerhill     Fran Weinstock                         https://www.facebook.com/pages/All-Together-Now/729057370439459 Please like us on Facebook!

  • WTB
    New and more detailed questions about birth parent

    Hi there, I have a wonderful son who is almost 11. I was there for his birth and it has been a closed adoption. He has occasionally made statements about…

  • housefrau
    New homeschool group?

    Would anyone else be interested in a homeschool group here?  I belong to a local group, but sometimes it would be nice to talk to others who homeschool kids we…

  • MarsDad
    Child v Doll

    A friend of my asian adopted tween apparently always wanted an asian little sister.  The parent of the friend got her an asian doll instead.  My tween hasn’t questioned this,…

  • Stephanie Rosic
    There is a Tween Living in My House

    I’m sharing some resources today about raising adopted tweens. Please stop by and share any resources on this topic as my girl has just officially entered tweenhood and I’m looking…

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