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Parents of Tweens

For parents of tween children—kids between 8 and 12 years old.

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ugh the tweens have set in

My sweet little 10 year has just started getting attitude. It is just sighs and looks at this time but I am waiting for the boom. He has always been…
- Posted by Aiken to Parents of Tweens on Mar 21, 2013 at 3:39am | 2 Comments | Post a reply
Successful birth-mother contact

I had posted last summer about a situation with my daughter. She is 12, almost 13, and out of the blue she decided she wanted to contact her birthmother, never having had any interest at all in the past. Well, fast forward, and things worked out really well. I had contacted her birthmother privately (through Facebok), and she was shocked, not sure she wanted any contact. Through back and forth emails over a several months, we finally agreed that I would send some pictures, but not the letter my daughter wrote. Well, I put together a photo album chronicling my daughter�s life, and got it sent off. Her birthmother was thrilled, and has now said that she would be happy to have a letter from my daughter if she still feels like writing. Funny thing though; my daughter is no longer interested! I think now that she knows she can, she doesn�t really need to anymore. Well, I will now continue to send photos and updates periodically, and we will see what happens. This is the level of openness I was originally hoping for, so I am very pleased that we are doing this now.
- Posted by Kate to Parents of Tweens on Jan 26, 2012 at 8:36pm | 2 Comments | Post a reply
Need Advice? Telling my son he is adopted.

My son is 8yrs old. I adopted him when he was 2yrs old, but have never discussed with him that he is adopted. We have spoken about adoption in general,…
- Posted by Jeannette to Parents of Tweens on Jul 14, 2011 at 1:27am | 5 Comments | Post a reply
First contact with birthmother

My 12 yo daughter, adopted at birth, has just (suddenly) expressed interest in contacting her B-mom. When we took her home, I had anticipated some openness, but her B-mom moved…
- Posted by Kate to Parents of Tweens on May 19, 2011 at 10:27pm | 3 Comments | Post a reply
ADOPTION CAMP!

Domestic Adoption camp is finally happening! It’s going to be great for our “tweens”! Cindy Colorado Heritage Camps presents the first Domestic Adoption Camp for adoptive families! August 12 (evening), 13 and 14, 2011 Colorado Heights University, Denver It is well past time that Colorado Heritage Camps develops a camp for families with children who have been adopted domestically, and who may not be of a different race or culture than their adoptive parents. Though we have been serving domestically adopted children for many years at our African Caribbean and our Latin American Heritage Camps, those are specifically for children of color whose parents are not generally of the same ethnicity. Therefore, we provide that important way for adopted children to build their ethnic identity with children and families �just like theirs,� and with an involved and supportive ethnic community. However, time and time again, families who attend one of our other ten Heritage camps, tell us that the adoption piece of their child�s identity is as important and in need of recognition as their cultural identity. EVERY adopted child comes with a heritage, a background, and an identity that is not the exact same as their adoptive parents. In the 20 years we have been providing Heritage Camps, we have found this difference to be a true gift for families, and one that should be celebrated and explored together. It is often said, �how can you know where you are going if you don�t know where you came from?� The mission of our newly formed Domestic Adoption Camp will be to provide an unprecedented place for families to learn, share, gain support, and celebrate adoption with each other. Experts in the field of adoption and adoptive child development will be invited to speak with parents, and with older teens. Through art, music, movement, play, team building, outdoor activities, and more, children from the age of 3 to 18 will be joyfully exploring and celebrating being adopted, therefore building self-esteem and confidence, which is proven over and over at our other Heritage Camps for adoptive families. Join us at our new and exciting Domestic Adoption Camp to build family support networks, talk about the many positives in adoption, as well as some of the inherent challenges, and enjoy family time together in an environment of families who all have something very important in common � adoption! This year�s camp will be held August 12-14 (evening of the 12th) at Colorado Heights University in Denver. Please visit our website at http://www.heritagecamps.org to register for this camp (or to get on our mailing list, or volunteer to help plan this camp); information on camp cost and scholarships are available on the web site. Registration is limited to the first 50 families. We are so looking forward to creating another wonderful network of adoptive families!
- Posted by clh1 to Parents of Tweens on Apr 02, 2011 at 12:56am | 0 Comments | Post a reply
Tween Challenges

I’m interested to know if other parents of tweens face the same challenges we do with our 10 y/o daughter. It’s sometimes hard to differentiate what challenges are adoption vs.…
- Posted by clh1 to Parents of Tweens on Sep 27, 2010 at 7:00pm | 8 Comments | Post a reply