I am sorry for your losses and I am sorry your husband is not with you. I’ve never been pregnant. My fertility doctor thought he would have to take one of my tubes during one of my previous surgeries (I have severe endometriosis.) From what he explained before, it is still possible to conceive with one tube instead of two.
The last baby shower I attended was for one of my cousins. It was the weekend that my husband and I decided that we no longer wanted to pursue the IVF treatments and that we wanted to look into adoption. That was the only thing that made that bearable. I have made every excuse world to get out of baby showers unless they are for very close relatives.
That was the day I asked my mom what she thought about adoption. She cried like a baby in the parking lot. Like I said before, there are some people who come close to understanding. My mom is one of mine. Then there are the others that say things like, “your life is going to change so much” or “you do know you are not going to get any sleep.” Well….I have been waiting on this for YEARS. My family is being formed through adoption, so I sit here waiting for a phone call from an adoption agency social worker waiting to tell me that our birthmom has went into labor so I can start changing “horrible diapers” and getting “absolutely no sleep.” That might be how some look at it. I see it as I am waiting for my little miracle.
For those who are undecided about adoption or are waiting….our adoption agency says that “you will get the child you were meant to raise.” My husband and I truly do believe that.