We have had this come up a bit. We first visited Avery’s birthparents when she was 2 months old. Cora had just turned 4 and it was the first time she had met them, but she had seen pictures. Cora knows her birthmom and we have visited a few times. Cora’s birthfather has never been involved and has chosen to not be involved.
We visited Cora’s birthmom about the same time. Cora started asking where her birthfather was, since she had met Avery’s. We told her we did not know and that we could try to contact him through the agency if she wanted us to. She also asked her birthmom where he was. She did not know either, but said she would ask around to see if anyone knew. Cora seemed a little disappointed, but hasn’t asked about it sense. We don’t have any info about him, except his name.
I’m sure this will come up again at some point. Not sure how we will handle it. It would be nice for her to at least meet him or have contact info so she can decide whether to contact him later. And it would be nice to have that half of her medical history.