Hi all, I am delighted to see a section just for us….people pursuing domestic adoption and enduring the awful WAIT.
My DH and I have been advertising since Feb 2008. We have had 3 very close calls but something always happens…....they decided to keep the baby, after starting paperwork with our lawyer, they just stopped calling us back, or they told us they picked someone else. Then there are all the little nibbles, we talk once after they see our profile then they stop returning calls, etc., etc.
We have been TTC since 2003 when we married at age 40 (me) and 36 (DH). We did 7 IVFs, etc. from ‘03 to ‘06. The DX was me being 40. We suffered through 1 m/c from our only BFP, and that resulted in Ashermans’s Syndrome (scarring of the uterus that occurs esp after D+C after m/c). We even had surgery to fix the Ashermans but my lining just never thickened enuf again. A real tragedy as I produced a lot of eggs, etc. Well the real tragedy was the Ashermans whichwas from the 1st IVF where I got pregnant (then only one where I got pregnant.) So we did 4 more IVFs, basically placing embies in a scarred uturus. You can’t see the scarring in an u/s. I had to switch REs and the new RE ordered an HSG since she suspected Ashermans and that is the only way to see it. In ‘06 we ended treatment completely burnt out and beaten down and explored adoption, found our lawyer and started the NY certification process which includes the homestudy.
That is our story in a nutshell. We are so weary by both the IF and adoption. Yet we are trying to do all the adoption things we can do and have not, namely: make an adoption business card, networking letter and website. We have worked hard on our profile and advertising. I am also going to redesign our profile since we got very good advice from an Adoptive Parents Committee meeting to make it less wordy, shorter (it’s 14 pp) and also to break it up in sections like “Our Home” “About Us” etc. so that it’s not just endless flowing text.
Can’t wait to meet other waiters!