We adopted a newborn almost 2 years ago now. She was our second baby (1st was biological) so we never grappled with the question of a baby shower. Now my sister is matched with an expectant mom and we want to have a shower. I know a lot of adoptive parents choose to wait until the baby is home to have the shower. This will be my sisters first and probably only baby. It is something she has wanted to do for a long time and it has been a long journey, as I’m sure you all understand. She wants to be able to experience it fully including the excitement and anticipation of being a mom-to-be. She knows the expectant mom could change her mind. But she still wants to have a shower. And I agree with her. Even when women are pregnant and have showers there is a chance that something could go wrong. Does having the shower make this harder? I kind of feel like shower or no shower, if the e-mom changes her mind it is going to be hard and my sister is going to grieve. Any thoughts? What did others do? Anyone have a shower before the baby came home? THanks for sharing your thoughts/experiences!