@ SEAMEMORIES - my husband and I are both seeing individual counselors who specialize in infertility/adoption and we are also seeing a couple’s counselor who specializes in infertility/adoption/pregnancy options, etc. She is a dream come true. They all are. When you search for a therapist/psychologist in your health insurances’ listing, you’ll see specialties listed. If not, you can call each one (eek!) and ask if they have a specialty. We were able to find our 3 specialists with very little problem, I wish you the same luck!
@ JUNOFOXTROT - you are so right - our experiences give us what we need! Well put and great attitude.
My update since the first post way back when… my husband has made incredible strides in his therapy. He is able to talk about his sterility, even brings it up nonchalantly. Amazing how much acceptance and peace he now has around it. AND he is encouraging me to try to conceive with donor sperm. This blew my mind but shows how far he’s come. I’m not sure if we’ll do it, but just him offering this melted my heart and made me feel like he understood my strong desire to experience pregnancy. We are in couples’ counseling too, as I mentioned above. It’s a great way to make sure we’re checking in with each other during our different stages of grief, as well as how we’re doing with the adoption wait. Things couldn’t be better between us - what a difference from just a few months ago when everything felt so haywire. Our experiences DO give us what we need. Peace to us all.