Thank you for sharing this. Many days, I feel the same way. My daughter is 5, and she has seen pictures of her birth mother, and even talked to her on the phone a few times. However, the contact is sporadic at best. Many times I will write or leave messages that go unanswered. My dauther wants to know why she doesn’t hear from her more often, and I have no answers other than, “I don’t know. I wish we would though, don’t you? It’s hard when we miss someone and can’t get in touch with them.” It’s a struggle for me to not get angry. We both (her birth mother and I) agreed to open adoption, but I feel like only one of us is living up to our end of the deal. Doesn’t she realize how hurtful it is when she doesn’t respond? Can’t she take 5 minutes to make a quick phone call, or even drop a note in the mail? I know the anger won’t help though. I can’t allow myself to dwell in that emotion. Instead, I hug my daughter a little tighter, assure her again how much her birthmother loves her, and say a prayer that maybe tomorrow will be the day she calls or writes. And that this time, she’ll stick around for good!
