You know, as I read some of the comments and suggestions on the foster to adopt forum my heart begins to ache with sadness. Do not go this route if you are not prepared, and expecting, challenging & “difficult” situations. On one post a woman posts that after the honeymoon phase certain “problems” began to arise and she warns people of this. Do you know what it does to a child when the parent regrets having a child placed when “problems arrise? They are human beings, not returnable merchandise. You destroy any hope of the child evr feeling accepted and loved. I will reiterate that my “suggestion” is that you SHOULD NOT GO THIS ROUTE IF YOU DO NOT HAVE DEEP, DEEP COMPASSION & EMPATHY for these damaged, hurt children. And they ALL have issues that may not be obvious for years to come. *You* have the power to make a difference in the future of these fragile children. *You* also have the power to destroy any chances of a bright future if you do not have the patience, understanding, and ability to a lifetime committment to these precious, special children. If you want children who will act and think like you and your children, if ou have natural children, have your own or adopt an infant. And if you adopt an infant, they too may have many challenges growing up. Really think things through before you go this route.
With rspect & love,
A mother of several foster to adoption, special needs, children
Can you be honest with yourself and really search within yourself to make sure YOU have the qualities that these children need, and not just search for the “perfect” child for YOUR needs? *** It’s about helping the child, not helping your desires and needs.****