We got a call on Thursday from our adotion agency. There is a baby due very soon and they want to send our profile to the birthmother. Of course we said yes. It felt right from the moment I took the call.
First thing that arises is the fees will be about $10,000 more than we expected because it is an out of state adoption and the legal fees are more.
Second thing, the birthmother may have been taking pain pills during the pregnancy.
My heart says this baby will be fine. But my siblings are making this huge deal over the fact that the baby may have withdrawals and could possibly end up with developmental problems. So now I am beggining to worry and get very nervous. It has been such a long road to get here in the first place, and they don’t understand because they could all concieve with no problem. I feel like you have to be more felxible when you are adopting. There are things that you would not do if you were pregnant, that you have to accept with an adoption. For instance I would not drink, smoke or do drugs if I were pregnant. And I have to accept that not all birthmothers will do the same thing. My family is just concerned for us, but they don’t know what we go thru on a daily basis with dealing with our infertility. I was not scared until I talked to my sister tonight. Now I am feel like I need to do research, but every thing I find in the internet does not have very much information. Does anyone know of a good place to find facts about pain killers in utero and its affects for the future of the baby? Because I need to know something more about this before I completely breakdown. So far my family has told me to just walk away, and that just doesn’t feel right to me. Please help!