I think about that, too - “What if my DD overhears?” We get comments all the time about our daughter, though it’s mostly about how beautiful she is. While she is multi-racial, she has blue eyes like her father, and her skin tone is rather light right now. The most common question we get it “Where’d she get her curly hair?” I usually just laugh it off and say “I don’t know.” After all, it’s not the business of a stranger in the grocery store to know that our DD is adopted. At 21 months old, it’s not a big deal to her now, but it may be later. I figure that, when she’s older, it’ll be her story to tell. We’re not trying to hide the fact that she’s, because it’s nothing to be ashamed of. And it invariably comes out in our conversations with people who know us for any length of time. But we don’t feel the need to broadcast it to the world, either.
We have gotten the “You’re so great for doing this” and “She’s so lucky” comments, to which we simply reply that we’re the lucky ones. I think the most startling comment I got was when our DD was about 6 months old. I was talking with a woman in a clothing store while we were both standing in line. Naturally, the conversation was about my daughter. As she was walking off, the woman looked at DD, then looked at me, and said “She must look like her father.” I stammered something about “She does have his eyes.” But I really wanted to spout out some sarcastic comment like “I don’t know; I never got to see his face,” just to see her reaction. But I guess that these sort of comments are part of what we “sign up for” as adoptive parents. It doesn’t necessarily make it easier, but it is part of the territory, unfortunately.