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What made your Dear Birthmother Letter stand out?
Posted: 11 September 2009 05:45 PM   Ignore ]  
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You probably spent hours writing and tweaking your Dear Birthmother Letter until it was just right. So what part of your letter do you think led the birthmother to choose you? Did she point out a specific anecdote or detail? Or did you include something unusual or surprising in your letter?

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Posted: 01 October 2009 07:16 AM   Ignore ]  
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We have been told a few times that PBMs like us because we were “active”. We have pictures of us skiing and hiking and biking. I think that stood out from the usual house, family and pets pictures

Posted: 05 October 2009 12:34 AM   Ignore ]  
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The week we were chosen by our first birthmother, we were about to remove the section of our story that actually made her choose us. We thought that maybe our profile was actually too long (but it is difficult to condense everything you want them to know!) and thought that making our profile shorter would be more beneficial. That one paragraph is what made her connect to us.
  After looking at other profile books, we also decided to make ours more simplistic looking and more uniform. We showed pictures of us and our family and made sure that the photos had a lot of close ups of our faces. We also wanted to try and convey our personalities though pictures, so we included pictures of us in Halloween costumes too. We were encouraged to also make sure that we only had 1 wedding photo (since many birthmoms are not married, nor in a stable relationship) and that if you work in the business field, that you didn’t take too many formal pictures.
  I don’t think there is one magic way to make your profile book. Something will make yours stand out to the birthfamily for a reason. If you like your profile, then you have to go with it.

Posted: 03 May 2010 07:10 PM   Ignore ]  
Total Posts:  13

Just a suggestion - we were honest, short and sweet in our letter and referred to our portfolio. Also, I looked for stationary to do a handwritten note and didn’t find any I liked, but now my friend has created some for us to send updates with - you’re welcome to check them out:

It must have resonated becuase we were chosen 5 times… We have successfully adopted Sophia now and it was all worth it, of course!


Posted: 22 July 2010 08:17 PM   Ignore ]  
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This is our current dilemma!  Trying to get everything “just right!”
it’s so hard to figure out the *right* things to say.

Currently at 3 boys, but hoping to adopt a girl into the mix smile
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