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Juggling Three Cultures
We are that family. You know, the one you see around town and you recognize immediately—well, if you live in a small town, that is. I suppose in a big city our family could pass inconspicuously through the checkout lanes of the nearest supermarket. But here, in our small world, we are famous.
I don’t mean everyone knows our names and our story, but there are probably few people here that have not at least seen us. You see, we live in a small town in the Southeast, and we look like a committee of the United Nations. I, Ecuadorian by birth, have the dark eyes and hair and the olive complexion of an average Hispanic woman. My husband, my beloved gringo, is Caucasian, pale as snow, with green eyes and brown hair. (Well, it used to be brown. It’s now in competition with his skin tone. He will tell you this has happened over the last 10 years. Ironically, this is the length of time we have been married.) Our children are both African-American. They are 5 and 3, a girl and a boy, drama and mischief, in that particular order. And we are bilingual—or at least my children and I are. My husband defends himself in Spanish pretty well. He says he knows enough to “get himself in trouble.”
So, when you see us coming, you will see many shades of skin color and hear a couple of languages. While I try to spark in my children a love for my Ecuadorian ancestry, a pride in their Black ethnicity, and a working understanding and appreciation for my husband’s Southern white culture, I’m also working to teach them to speak two languages fluently. The way we juggle three cultures tends to confuse the daylights out of some of our small-town neighbors, which can be entertaining.
Sound exhausting? It can be. But it is so much fun, and we look forward to sharing more about our family’s story in the weeks and months ahead.
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