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Meeting Our Son in Korea



Last time, I told you about how our family is doing now—how our son, Dylan, home now from Korea for a month, and I are madly in love. That still holds true, and I fall more in love every day. Today, walking down our block, Dylan in our mei tai and a daughter holding each hand, I thought, They're all mine. Forever. And I will never be able to tell you how exhilarating that feeling was.

This all happened very quickly, but it wasn’t immediate. I’d like to take the next few posts to tell you about our trip to Seoul and our initial time at home. Today, I’ll start with our first moments with our son, which occurred at the home of his foster family within half a day of our arrival in South Korea.

We landed at Seoul Incheon International Airport at about 6 p.m. local time, severely jet-lagged. I’d slept only half an hour, instead spending my night in a weepy panic, yet excited to catch a glimpse of the Korean landscape as it quickly gives way to the most gracefully beautiful city I’ve ever seen. Only 14 hours later, we were in a car with our Korean social worker, headed for the home of Dylan’s foster family. 

One of the first things our social worker told us, before we’d even left her office, was that Dylan was very wary of strangers. "Expect him to cry when he sees you," she said. With not much to go on, we braced ourselves for the worst.

When his foster mother opened the door, I couldn’t exhale. He was behind her in his foster father’s arms. I slipped in the door and locked eyes with my son. "Hi, baby," I breathed, taking off my shoes. "I’m your mama." He smiled.

During the next hour and a half, we played, Dylan slowly inching closer and closer to us until he was on our laps, in our arms. His foster parents and our social worker stole away, leaving us alone for a moment. He showed us he wanted us to pick him up and laughed when we did.

As we made our way to the car, our brief allotted time somehow already over, Dylan and his foster mother followed us outside. He’d begun crying as soon as the door had latched, and she’d brought him out to say one more good-bye. He was all smiles, once again, and our social worker translated his foster mother’s thoughts: He wanted to go home with his parents right away.

He’d have to wait two days.

When the wait was up, the three of us would begin a two-day period of trial by fire, the most difficult parenting my husband, Jeremiah, and I have ever experienced and a time of mourning our son almost couldn’t bear. That first meeting, though, was a gift, the promise of what—and who—we could be.


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4 Comments

I love hearing of when people first meet their child.  It’s just so magical.

I look forward to reading more about your trip to get your adorable Dylan!

By Danielle Pennel on Thursday, June 16, 2011 at 10:27 pm.

Welcome back Meghan!

I’m interested in reading your next installment. While I think that foster care is preferable to institutionalization, I always thought that it must be hard on everyone envolved at the final goodbye.

Glad you’re back safe, and that your whole family is now together.

Jeff

By Jeff on Friday, June 17, 2011 at 10:04 pm.

Thanks, you two! The next installment is coming soon, and it’s not nearly as pretty.

By Meghan on Saturday, June 18, 2011 at 8:34 pm.

Meghan, how sweet! Like Jeff, I can’t wait to hear about what happened next. Nice to meet you! I’m one of the new bloggers so I’m just getting to know everyone.

By Gaby on Monday, June 20, 2011 at 10:36 pm.

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