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Adoption Blog: Man Up!

Finding Our Future in the Past



"I kept thinking about Manu today. It is hard to concentrate on anything but his adoption."

This was the entry from my wife Leslie's adoption journal on Thursday, 12/18/08. A few days before we began our homestudy, in November 2007, she started keeping a daily journal as a way to chronicle her thoughts, hopes, and fears, and as a way to release some of the pent-up emotions that come along with the adoption process. We didn't know how long our wait would be, so we also hoped that we might capture what we had done on the day our child-to-be was born, wherever he or she might be. Our son Manu, whom we adopted from India in 2009, was born on April 13, 2008. Here is Leslie's entry from that day:

"It was a nice day. I had a great workout and tried a new recipe; it turned out great! I went shopping with my sister and we had a lot of fun."

It was nice to be able to look back on that after we got Manu's referral later that year -- to know that there was some positive energy surrounding us that day.

Throughout the journal you can find some long, thoughtful reflections on our situation, as well as some shorter, pithy entries that basically amount to: waiting sucks! Leslie kept up the journal for several months after Manu came home, but, like many adoption memoirs and blogs, when life started getting in the way, it slowly started to fade away. But every so often, we will pull it from the bookshelf and stroll down memory lane. For 14 months, adoption shaped almost every aspect of our daily lives -- When will we finally get a referral? Will we ever get a new picture? How quickly will we bond as a family? -- and by the time Thursday, December 18 arrived -- just one month before we would travel to India -- we could concentrate on little else.

We didn't know if at the time, but we captured something else in that journal -- another precious gift from the cosmic universe. You see, when Leslie wrote that entry on 12/18/08, when our whole life's focus was on our new little boy, a little girl was born in the Shandong Province of China. A little girl who, for unknown reasons, would be abandoned and left to the care of a local orphanage, where she would spend the first five years of her life. A little girl who would abruptly enter our lives one Sunday afternoon when, just as we were headed out the door, all of our electronic gadgets simultaneously buzzed, beeped, and chirped with the arrival of the long-awaited e-mail from our agency containing her referral and beautiful pictures.

We're thrilled to welcome her as the newest member of our family and cannot wait to travel, as you can imagine. We're also happy to have a journal entry on her birthday. Although we didn't know her at the time, it feels like a small connection. Leslie has started journaling again. Even though we cannot re-capture aspects of our lives as they were on her first, second, third, and fourth birthdays, we can write down for her -- and the universe -- how happy she has made us now and forever.


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4 Comments

Wow!  Congrats to you and your family!  What an exciting new journey!!

By Danielle Pennel on Tuesday, October 08, 2013 at 5:06 pm.

Great Job dear. That would be the great moment for your family welcoming a new member. Congrats and keep going

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By Boom on Monday, October 21, 2013 at 5:36 pm.

Love this perspective!

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