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Adoption Blog: The Yin and the Yang

Farewell to The Yin and the Yang

One year and nine months ago, I posted the first entry of The Yin and the Yang on AdoptiveFamiliesCircle. The post, titled "Best Laid Plans," introduced our family formed by birth and international adoption, as well as the idea that no matter how carefully you may plan a life, it gets filled with the unexpected.

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Kathryn standing in the middle of the yin and yang symbol in China.

I never expected to adopt a child from China. I never expected to blog about it for nearly two years. I never expected how hard it would be to say goodbye.

Yin and yang is an ancient Chinese concept. In a simplified nutshell, yin and yang represent opposing energies—the black and the white, the dark and the light. The energies are in continual motion, yin to yang and yang to yin. Like life, nothing is all black or all white. The ideal is balance.

These past years, I have written about the heartbreaking and hopeful moments that come with the privilege of being an adoptive mom. I have read fellow bloggers, marveling at the courage and grace of those who have formed families, experienced loss, met birthparents, fielded questions, and loved children through the joys and challenges related to adoption.

It has been an honor to write about experiences that matter to me as an adoptive mom and to learn from the insights of those who have blogged and commented on AdoptiveFamiliesCircle. It's been a delight to share a kind of intimacy only available in this far-reaching world of the blogosphere. 

Yet, yin and yang are ever moving. Once again, I find myself embracing the unexpected. A week ago, I began a master of fine arts program in creative writing at a scenic school in Vermont. Don't ask me how this happened. Surely I thought it up, filled out the extensive application, and accepted the admissions offer, but I still can't really explain.

Seven years ago, I was drawn into the adoption community. Now as I enter a community of writers, I am drawn by the same inexplicable sense of certitude, not knowing why I want this future, but knowing that it just feels right. Like everything, graduate school brings good and bad. I will spend the next two years writing, honing my craft, learning to teach. Yet, I will have to let go of things, such as blogging bimonthly for AdoptiveFamiliesCircle.

Our wonderful AFC editor has welcomed me to stop in and write a post now and then. I will gratefully do so, as time permits. I will definitely visit the site often to read the diverse and engaging voices of the bloggers steadily guiding us along the adoptive family road together.

For those of you who have read my posts, for those who smiled or cried or bristled and took the time to write a kind note or to set me straight, I deeply thank you. 

I'll be posting occasionally on my personal blog. You are welcome to stop by and say hello. I hope some of you will keep in touch and all of you will find the perfect yin and yang balance in your lives—however they may be touched by adoption.

In Mandarin Chinese, zài means "again, once more, next in sequence." Jiàn means "to see, to meet, to appear to be something." Together, the two mean "goodbye."

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How exciting that your life is changing so much.  Based on your posts about adoption, I am sure you’ll do amazing with your writer groups.

Thanks for all you have contributed thus far.  Enjoy your schooling!

By Danielle Pennel on Friday, July 08, 2011 at 7:41 pm.

Thanks for all of your wonderful posts Stacy, I’ll miss reading them. Good luck in school!

By Jeff on Friday, July 08, 2011 at 8:44 pm.

Congratulations on your new beginnings! Thank you for your contribution here and may the road open wide before you. All the best to you!

By Gaby on Friday, July 08, 2011 at 10:00 pm.


Your blog posts were one of the reasons I decided to pursue blogging here as well.  Congratulations on the new opportunity.  Coming from a family of teachers and being married to one has shown me the power of that profession.  Look forward to hearing from you when you have a moment, either here or on your personal blog. All the best,


By Ellenore Angelidis on Friday, July 08, 2011 at 10:06 pm.

Thanks all! Your words mean a lot. Stacy

By Stacy Clark on Friday, July 08, 2011 at 10:43 pm.

Whaaa? Leaving? I wish you all the best on your new adventure, Stacy! I’m sure this is not the last posting I’ll be reading from you! You have a real gift. Be well ~ Barbara

By Barbara Herel on Saturday, July 09, 2011 at 1:06 am.


Congratulations on your new adventure, and for seeking that elusive balance. We’ll miss you…please do drop in when you can.

By Sharon Van Epps on Sunday, July 10, 2011 at 4:33 pm.

Stacy, happy writing and happy teaching and please know that those of us who have read you here and elsewhere could wish you only the very, very best.

By Meghan on Tuesday, July 12, 2011 at 3:00 am.

Congratulations! Good Luck!

By John_Travilta on Tuesday, July 12, 2011 at 7:22 am.

Congratulations on your new venture. Thanks for all you’ve written here, Stacey grin.

And best wishes!

By Lavender Luz on Saturday, July 16, 2011 at 1:45 am.
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