I wish I had beautiful moments like that about my son’s birth mother, unfortunately it wasn’t her choice to give her son up for adoption. He was number four to be taken from her. It is a closed adoption, we adopted Owen at 14 months old. Just recently I have contacted her, Owen is now 6. She doesn’t know identifying information, only first names, but I wanted her to know that Owen was safe, happy and well. I wanted to establish a contact with her, and maybe mend some bridges. It has been going well, we talk over email once in awhile and exchange some information, it sounds like she is getting her life together. When my son is old enough to understand I will show him the emails, and my attempt to bridge the gap.

Loved this story. My son turned two yesterday and his birthmother has been in my for days.  She is also a Midwesterner and we live outside of Boston.  I am constantly in awe of her loving, selfless attitudes on life despite many of the hardships she has endured.  We are getting ready to make a second trip to Ohio to adopt a second baby that she recently gave birth to, which was a shock to all of us…Knowing that she is the birthmom of both our children calms me and we are looking forward to solidifying our bond with her.  Thanks again for this story, it came at the perfect time.

Hi gals! Thanks so much for reading, and, most importantly, sharing your stories.

Melissa, I think it’s wonderful that you’ve been reaching out. Only good can come of it. And Christine,  congratulations to you and your family (birth family included)! Safe travels! 

~ Barbara

I had an amazing experience with my oldest sons birth Mom. 
I was in the room when Conor was born. I spent time with her weekly when she was pregnant with our son.  I think of her many times a day every single day. As well as his birth father. We speak several times a year and my plan is to see her soon. We are in process of adopting children 3 and 4 next month from China and I am in process of selling my business so time is limited.  I thank god every day for my experience with her and pray I raise Conor as she would approve. I look forward to them meeting some day soon. (he is 4) when he asks. He speaks of her as well. My second born, Seamus was a very different experience. His precious birth Mom is really having a hard time in her life. This process was very painful for her and she has chosen not to have any contact. We have sent pictures to our sons birth grandfather and he has verbalized wanting to stay in touch. We were fortunate to have been able to track down Seamus’s sister who was also placed for adotion a year earlier than Seamus at birth as well. We met his adoptive family this past weekend who live in the NE. We are in the SE. They are so lovely and we can’t wait for the kids to meet. Seamus’s adoptive family were here for a much needed vacation so his sister was not with them.  I am so pleased for Seamus and us that their is a possibility of an ongoing relationship.

Just beautiful… thank you so much for sharing. What wonderful connections you have, and are making. Who knows, maybe Seamus’ birthmom will also want to have future relationship down the line. And best wishes as you bring your little ones home!