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How We Created Our Adoption Profile Book



If you're adopting a baby in the U.S., you'll need to create an adoption profile book. This book is one of the most important first impressions you'll ever make, and you'll want it to speak volumes about you. 

Our daughter's biological mother, Kim, received 10 books, including ours. When Tony and I first met with Kim and the biological father, Charlie, they kept referencing our book while asking us questions. It helped the conversation flow, making an awkward first meeting much more comfortable.
 
Based on much research and working with an adoption consultant, here's what my husband and I learned about creating a book that gets noticed. Consider it my holiday gift to you! 
 
First, some helpful tips:
  • Make it easy to read. Choose a font that's homey and inviting, but be sure that it's easy to read. It may help to stick to a larger font size, say 16 or 18. If you have a lot to share about yourselves, don't worry too much about length. Our book turned out to be 26 pages long. 
  • Make it "kid-friendly." We were advised that biological moms and dads want to see how much you love being around children. So let them see you with the children that are already in your life, namely your nieces, nephews, and friends' kids. Be sure to include lots of pictures of children (37 out of 51 pictures in our book include kids). 
  • Make it descriptive. For example, share how you specifically like to celebrate the holidays. This way, birthparents get to know you, and can begin to envision their child in your life.
  • Make it attractive. My husband is very creative and was responsible for the look of our book. We had a very simple border around each page, and lots of photos with colorful borders. We also included captions, such as "Tony with niece Jaya on our family vacation in Vermont." We had our book professionally printed and bound (we ordered 10 in all, we sent out 4). If you're not a design star, no worries! Try kodakgallery.com or snapfish.com.
  • Make it accurate and respectful. Always use "your baby" or "your child" instead of "our." An example: "As parents, we look forward to the little things, like rocking your child to sleep…."
  • Make it honest, personal, and heartfelt. Only you can tell your story. It took us three months to create our book, mostly because we found it to be so emotional. We included lots of detail since we wanted a birthparent to get an authentic feel for the kind of people we were and the life we were living. Hopefully it was the kind of life she imagined for her child.
 
Here are the pages we included in our adoption profile book:
  • Introduction - This is where we thanked the potential birthmother for looking at our book and told her how much we admired her strength for choosing adoption. Then we shared a bit about our wonderful (and loud) family and friends. We also included important contact information, such as our adoption attorney's phone number and our toll-free line. 
  • About Us - We described how we met and our road to becoming a stable, committed couple with a strong, loving marriage.
  • What I Love Most About Tony (Through the Eyes of Barbara) - This was probably the easiest page to write because it was about my groovy husband! I wrote about his talents, from cooking to spending time with our nieces and nephews to performing magic. I wrote about how he lights up a room, how much children love him, and how very much he wanted to be a father.
  • What I Love Most About Barbara (Through the Eyes of Tony)
  • Our Wedding - We shared where we got married and included some memorable pictures. Our daughter's biological mom, Kim, told us she thought it was great that our nieces and nephews were our bridesmaids and groomsmen. (So did we!)
  • Our Home - Here's where we described not only the home that we love, but also our neighborhood, neighbors, and the many nearby beaches, parks, and playgrounds.
  • Our Friends and Family - We wrote that we were lucky to have so many of our friends and family close by and explained how get-togethers happen at the spur of a moment.
  • A Family Tradition: Camping! - I wrote about how the family camping trips began when I was a little girl and that they're still going strong. My nieces and nephews have a great time doing all the same things my brothers and I did as kids.
  • Holidays- We gave specific examples of how we celebrate Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas.
  • Vacations! Mostly pictures with this sentence: "We love traveling and can't wait to bring your child along, too!"
  • Wishing You the Best - We thanked the potential birthparent for taking the time to get to know us once again, and let her know that we would love to talk to get know each other better. We also repeated the important contact information. Every time we sent out a book, Tony and I signed it.  
A favorite read
 
Today, we keep a copy of our adoption profile book in our daughter's room. We use it to talk about her adoption story. After "reading" it with her and looking at all the family pictures, we tell her how happy we are that Kim and Charlie chose us to be her mommy and daddy forever and ever. 
 
I hope you've found this advice useful. If you have a specific question about creating your adoption profile book, just ask. Or if you have your own adoption profile insights for fellow prospective parents, let's hear from you! 


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13 Comments

That’s a good point, Babydreams.  Our agency uses a different format - it’s similar to a folder.  Your Dear Birthmother letter is the cover, and you write different sections on the inside.  There are only 5-6 pictures in the whole folder, plus it’s only 3 pages.  Tough to make it all fit, but it definitely makes you include just the most important info…

By wendyandsteve on Thursday, January 26, 2012 at 7:30 pm.

You can use code OUTMEBOX at Mixbook to receive 40% off of your adoption profile books! smile

By the-saurus on Friday, October 25, 2013 at 10:41 pm.

I am an adopted adult who would like to adopt a child or children within the USA. We are already home study approved. It has been suggested to husband and I that we network in an attempt to adopt a child. How does one network for this reason? Guitar Center Offers And Deals & I’ve read about people who send letters to clergy, doctors and schools, etc. but I’m not really sure what to provide.

By emmamichael910 on Monday, April 09, 2018 at 2:39 am.
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